A letter to my neice Sarala Althaus on the wedding of her first child!

Sarale, my dear,

Can you take a moment to breath

And stop from the rush that life brings us

And step outside yourself for a moment

And take a look  at what is happening now

You Sarale are marrying off your daughter Chaya 

This is an earth shattering moment

You did it!

You reached milestone number one

You reached a goal that millions people try to reach every minute

You are passing on the torch of life to your daughter 

the next generation

The torch of Torah

The torch  of love for yiddishkeit The  torch

is being passed to the next generation of souls

that you, Sarala,have permeated the sanctity of Hashem and purpose 

to impact your Chaya throughout her 19 years in a way that will last with her for 120 years!

What I'm saying is

This is a very auspicious time

A very unique experience that will never get repeated, since Chaya is your first daughter to get married and that experience will never be repeated 

So

I want you to take it in

Breath

Step out of the box,

Think where you are standing and feel what it feels like

Don't let those special moments pass without acknowledging it

Look at your beautiful daughter

Thank Hashem for the gift of this simcha

Don't get harassed by the small annoying things that trap your happiness and fog your excitement

Don't let little things get in your way

Keep focusing in the bigger picture

Remember

For the little things that may annoy you, as Bubbie always said, "this too shall pass"

And remember for the great grand event coming soon the day of the wedding ih  that this too shall pass so quickly too!

In other words

For the small stuff that annoys you tell yourself it's gonna pass it'll be ok

For the great big day and the preparations ahead of you, because it's going to go so fast

STOP, LOOK and LISTEN

Stop and step back and appreciate what blessings Hashem  has showered you with

Look

At your family and your accomplishments

Listen

To your children with care and patience because it'll be a challenge to have patience right now as they need you most now!

This is my gift to you

As an aunt

I am so proud of you

You deserve the best

You are a role model of a fine chadsidishe woman

You are a light to pass on to the next generation

Keep the flame burning!

Love forever 

Toby