Tuesday, 11 August 2015
English. Crazy Language
English! Crazy Language. No?😀
We'll begin with a box, and the plural is boxes; but the plural of ox became oxen not oxes.
One fowl is a goose, but two are called geese, yet the plural of moose would never be meese.
You may find a lone mouse or a nest full of mice; yet the plural of house is houses, not hice.
If the plural of man is always called men, why shouldn't the plural of pan be called pen?
If I spoke of my foot and have two feet, and I give you a boot, would a pair be called beet?
If one is a tooth and a whole set are teeth, why shouldn't the plural of booth be called beeth?
We speak of a brother and also of brethren, but though we say mother, we never say methren.
Then the masculine pronouns are he, his and him, but imagine the feminine, she, shis and shim.
You have to marvel at the unique lunacy of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which an alarm clock goes off by going on.
There is no egg in eggplant nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple.
English muffins weren't invented in England or French fries in France.
Quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don't fing, grocers don't groce and hammers don't ham?
If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn't the plural of booth beeth?
One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indices?
If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?
If teachers taught, why didn't a preacher praught?
If you wrote a letter, perhaps you bote your tongue?
In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital?
Ship by truck and send cargo by ship?
Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and wise guy are opposites?
How can overlook and oversee be opposites, while quite a lot and quite a few are alike?
Have you ever run into someone who was, gruntled, ruly or peccable?
That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.
And why, when I wind up my watch, I start it, but when I wind up a story I end it.
Let's face it, English is a crazy language...
The bandage was wound around the wound.
The farm was used to produce produce.
The dump was so full it had to refuse more refuse.
He could lead if he would get the lead out.
The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert.
Since there was no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present.
When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
I did not object to the object.
The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
They were too close to the door to close it.
The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
After a number of injections my jaw got number.
Upon seeing the tear in the painting I shed a tear.
I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
Then You Had Children
You used to have a clean house, clean
clothes and clean hair.
Then you had children.
Your standards gradually slipped lower and
lower and before you know it you are eating the remains of a rice cake off the
floor to avoid having to walk to the bin. Not because you are lazy; but
because some days, you are just too tired to care.
Here are a few dirty secrets that only a
tired parent will understand:
1. When I am vacuuming, I will stamp on an
old biscuit to make it fit up the hoover pipe instead of picking it up.
2. I have thrown away dirty saucepans
because I can’t face scrubbing them.
3. I have told my kids the DVD player is
broken so I don’t have to put one on for them. If it is not on the Sky planner,
they are not watching it.
4. I have put the same wash on six times
because I am too tired to hang it out.
5. I have thrown out baby clothes after a
nappy leak rather than clean them.
8. I have taken alternate bites of bread
and cheese because making a sandwich is too much effort.
9. I have put dirty plates in the
dishwasher with some clean stuff because I can’t be bothered to unload it.
12. I will tell my partner I am popping
out for milk then sit in the car park outside the supermarket for half an hour
enjoying the peace.
13. I rarely hang up clean clothes. My
washing basket is my wardrobe.
14. I will spend half an hour rearranging
the dishwasher so I don’t have to wash up the one cup that won’t fit.
15. I never answer the phone because
conversations are way too much effort.
16. I have had a dirty children’s sock on
my kitchen sideboard for three weeks.
17. Batteries never get replaced.
Especially, if you need a screwdriver to open the battery compartment.
18. We often just sit in the dark rather
than replace light bulbs.
19. I will use any suitable substitute I
can find when I run out of toilet roll to avoid a trip to the shop. Kitchen
roll, baby wipes, the cardboard inner
tube, cotton wool !!
20. I once covered a plate with foil so I
could use it again rather than wash it up.
21. I only properly clean the house when I
have people coming to visit.
A Realisation About My Family, By Toby Lieder
Mother of 14 children Mrs. Toby Lieder of
Sydney, Australia says she had a sudden a realisation about her family.
By Toby Lieder Slowly I gaze around my home that was once filled with laughter, music, and a big mess, and I wonder - where did it all disappear?
Just yesterday, they were here, and today they're almost all gone. Gone to their own homes in their own paradise. Gone to their own kiddies jumping on their beds now, and finding half filled sour curdled milk baby bottles under their beds.
No more morning rush to beat the clock to catch the school bus while sending 8 kids out of the house at once! No more rushing home before 4:00 pm to be home for the crew that arrive at my doorstep with starving tummies and wondrous tales to share! You mean, I can keep shopping till I drop?
I can even lay down at any given time I desire, with no one looking for me and harassing me to get up and make them toast and peanut butter "now!"
I can even eat a whole sandwich without having to share any part of it with anyone! Because no one is home to ask!
I can even polish down a bag of chips without being disturbed! Never mind reading a complete newspaper without one interruption!
Sundays are now a walk on the beach instead of busy with kiddy picnics in the park that take 2 hours to get ready for.
But...You know, I never knew that what I once wished for can really come true.
Oh how I once wished for the quiet peace of sleeping uninterrupted.
How I thought that was never to be! But, I must confess, my friends, the time has come and I can sleep like there’s no tomorrow, with no one tugging on my blankets to take them to the toilet, or sing them back to sleep from a nightmare.
Oh yes! I can sleep now like there’s no tomorrow.
I can eat my chocolate and leave it on the table and it will still be there 3 hours later. I know it sounds like a fantasy, but the time does actually come when you can clean the floor and it actually stays clean for 2 days straight!
I always thought that raising kids would last forever.
I always thought that putting kids to bed at night would never end.
I always thought I would never ever get a good night sleep ever again!
But, I must confess, the time has come - and I don't like it at all.
It's not what I imagined, being alone at home. It is no fun just having pictures on the walls to stare at when you feel the pangs of hunger for having your good ol’ family back to the way it was.
I never thought it would come so fast. I never thought it would be so lonely!
It was just yesterday when I lay in bed with one child on one side of me, another on the other side, one across my feet, and the youngest on top of me, all of us under one big warm blanket, listening to my bedtime stories while falling asleep, all together.
It feels like the tape was put on fast forward, to a place where I am right now! I am not meant to be finished my job! It was meant to go on forever and ever! I really never knew it would actually halt like a short stop on a busy road. Nobody warned me. I am still looking in the rooms at night to see if everyone’s asleep, but nobody’s there. Hey! Where did my family go?
It felt like just yesterday when I came to watch the kids concerts and plays in school. I took all the photos and videos. Now it's time to dust them off, take them off the shelves and go down memory lane, and sort out yesterday’s memories.
What I am realizing is, that if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t wish for the end so fast. I would consume each and every day as if it were the only day I have.
I know, I am blessed with over 22 grandchildren, and married 7 out of 14 children already B”H.
But here I am, sitting in a rocking chair, knitting for my grandchildren. But am I ready to enter Bubbyland? Gevald, I am still 17! How can a 17 year old have so many grandchildren! Where did the time fly?
Then it hit me. This is what I began to realise.
Hashem has blessed us with being the caregivers for His children that He blessed us with. He entrusted me, and my dear husband, with 14 souls, and said, “Here are My gifts to you to take care of for a while, till they grow old enough to take care of themselves (when exactly?).
They are just temporary visitors in your home that I trust you to educate and discipline, according to the ways of the Torah.
You will hopefully do such a good job that by the time they are 18+ they will be fully grown responsible independent human beings that will follow the right way."
Hashem gifted us with these souls to make a difference to them to carry on the torch of yiddishkeit, love, for a better future.
I always thought I owned them, since I gave birth to them, dressed them, fed them, took them to doctors and hospitals, appointments, and never ending changing diapers, staying up at night, crying babies, endless shopping, birthday parties, Shabbosim, friends over, send them to camps, to seminary, getting them married, being there for their first births, helping with their kids…. and the list goes on.
I came to realise, that each child is a world of their own, and are entitled to a universe of their own.
Hashem ‘loaned’ them to us for a short while, until there comes a time for us to ‘let go’ and say, "we did our job, and now we are here to assist you whenever you need us (forever), but to assist you, and not to impose on you."
There is a time to let go, and watch our kids blossom on their own. That is what we planted seeds for all our life. To sit back one day and watch the flowers blossom in the garden.
Now I must accept the time has come to sit back and relax, smell the roses, and hear the birds chirping.
I'll water my plants from time to time, only when asked to.
To all my younger friends still on the rollercoaster of raising little kids, I convey to you a most important message: Stop, breathe, relax, laugh, and have tons of fun with your family, because soon, it’ll be rocking chair time!
Opinions
and Comments
1
im
gonna cry
im
so getting sad, and my baby is 9 months old.
(8/6/2015
12:20:37 AM)
2
great
article
Thank
you for reminding us to love every minute!
(8/6/2015
12:37:08 AM)
3
LOVE
IT
Yes
Cherish every moment with your kids.
When they are small.
When they are small.
(8/6/2015
12:37:40 AM)
4
Love
it
but
no matter what we do we can't make time last forever!!
(8/6/2015
12:41:33 AM)
5
Loved
reading
Thank
you for writing!
(8/6/2015
12:46:23 AM)
6
Sarah
kats
Beautiful!
So happy to have spent a year with your family
(8/6/2015
12:49:58 AM)
7
Kol
Hakavod!
Great
piece! I'm in the same position as the writer.
But to #1: Don't worry. I used to cry over articles like these when my baby was 9 months old. I think part of the tears were because it was SO HARD being a mother with a young baby. The writer is making an important and vital point. But the fact is, life is hard at EVERY stage in Golus. Enduring decades of insufficient sleep (including waiting up for teens who came home dangerously late at night...) was nearly impossible for me to deal with. I thought my brain was gone forever. (Finally I have my brain back B"H and am loving it!...) Coping with the empty nest makes me lonely and weepy, too, but part of that is because I now have to enter uncharted territory: I have to do my best to serve Hashem without the constant demands of making toast and peanut butter "right now," and all the other great examples the writer gave. In a way it's easier to have the structure of a big family with little people pulling at you constantly from every direction. Now that structure is gone, and the youthful energy of being 17 is just not the same, even though we are 17 in our heads, for sure, with a sense of humor that's had m-a-n-y more years to become rich and mellow! We bubbies have to reinvent ourselves, in a way, and that's really, really hard. But I'm not 100% sure it's harder than four kids in the bed with me... Wishing everyone, including me, the strength to cope at whatever stage they are in. Moshiach Now.
But to #1: Don't worry. I used to cry over articles like these when my baby was 9 months old. I think part of the tears were because it was SO HARD being a mother with a young baby. The writer is making an important and vital point. But the fact is, life is hard at EVERY stage in Golus. Enduring decades of insufficient sleep (including waiting up for teens who came home dangerously late at night...) was nearly impossible for me to deal with. I thought my brain was gone forever. (Finally I have my brain back B"H and am loving it!...) Coping with the empty nest makes me lonely and weepy, too, but part of that is because I now have to enter uncharted territory: I have to do my best to serve Hashem without the constant demands of making toast and peanut butter "right now," and all the other great examples the writer gave. In a way it's easier to have the structure of a big family with little people pulling at you constantly from every direction. Now that structure is gone, and the youthful energy of being 17 is just not the same, even though we are 17 in our heads, for sure, with a sense of humor that's had m-a-n-y more years to become rich and mellow! We bubbies have to reinvent ourselves, in a way, and that's really, really hard. But I'm not 100% sure it's harder than four kids in the bed with me... Wishing everyone, including me, the strength to cope at whatever stage they are in. Moshiach Now.
(8/6/2015
1:11:21 AM)
8
Friend
of the family
Thank
you for your incredible writing, this article is so beautiful and a true
reminder not to take anything for granted and cherish every moment! I
personally know and are friends with a few of your children, they are amazing
humans, doing incredible things in the world! Hashem should continue to bentch
you with an abundance of brochos and nachas from your whole family!
(8/6/2015
1:23:47 AM)
9
Yay
Bubby!
World's
best bubby
We love you!
We love you!
(8/6/2015
1:25:25 AM)
10
Nice
story ... Going to kiss my little ones more
Proud
of you and happy for you ..... You made a mission as a mom , I don't think so
... Maybe it's a quiet time now in your house but when the family is gathering
to YomTov with all the extended family .... Or when you have a full family
picture from the wedding - it's priceless ...
Wish you to marry off all your kids soon and have more grand children and only nahes from all your huge family
Wish you to marry off all your kids soon and have more grand children and only nahes from all your huge family
(8/6/2015
1:36:04 AM)
11
Bubby
time!
Loved the article! B"H my children are married
and out of the house but I still get that empty nest feeling. I guess that is
why they say that cleanliness (no one there to mess it up right away)is next to
loneliness!
May we only have yiddishe chassidishe nachas from our
children.
May we only have yiddishe chassidishe nachas from our
children.
(8/6/2015
2:08:42 AM)
12
Dear
Toby
I
know exactly what you mean Boruch Hashem have been zoche to marry off all of
them. But I feel like a lost soul. Completely displaced and cant find my place
anymore. Sincerely yours, Out of Commission PS I wish is knew the answer
(8/6/2015
2:16:05 AM)
13
poignant
It
is so scary but true. How we wish we can turn the hands of the clock back. If
this encourages one more family to grow by even one more precious, noisy, messy
child, it accomplished a whole world.
(8/6/2015
2:18:15 AM)
14
Check
out the blog
Momof14.blogspot.com
Excellent fun!
You will laugh
You will cry!
Excellent fun!
You will laugh
You will cry!
(8/6/2015
2:19:03 AM)
15
Beautiful
and so true!
(8/6/2015
2:30:02 AM)
16
Oh
yesss!
You
brought tears to my eyes.
(8/6/2015
2:56:15 AM)
17
Oh
how I relate
I
cried as I devoured each word. I am now working hard at enjoying each
grandchild and remembering each detail and thanking Hashem every second that He
gave me the strength to endure and that He blessed me with my
blessings!!!
Great article!
Hubby's out there hop your children get thru the challenging days so they can enjoy the blessings... You know what a rough day or week is.... Our children need us.... Our role is just different now.
Hashem should help us so we can help them be the perfect parents
Only nachas and simchadika simchos.
Great article!
Hubby's out there hop your children get thru the challenging days so they can enjoy the blessings... You know what a rough day or week is.... Our children need us.... Our role is just different now.
Hashem should help us so we can help them be the perfect parents
Only nachas and simchadika simchos.
(8/6/2015
3:00:13 AM)
18
Sarah
MH, aka mini minor!
Thanks
mrs. Lieder for the wonderful year of seminary that I cherish forever! As I
read this important article, I could hear ur voice, see your facial
expressions, and had so many wonderful memories of your home and family! Ur the
best!
This is a great reminder during the summer months when we baruch hashem spend soooo much time with our kids!
This is a great reminder during the summer months when we baruch hashem spend soooo much time with our kids!
(8/6/2015
3:26:22 AM)
19
I
tried, but...
Loved
every minute, but it is hard when they grow up and it doesn't work as you
expected. They don't go 'through the system' or the shidduch doesn't come...and
they don't move on as you would have hoped.
(8/6/2015
3:32:46 AM)
20
well
done
Amazing
xx
U should write a book!!?
U should write a book!!?
(8/6/2015
4:04:26 AM)
21
yos
nice
(8/6/2015
4:17:19 AM)
22
Time
flys
Beautifully
written.. I'm about to have my first baby and already sad to think that time
can go so fast.. I will try my best to cherish every moment.. Thank you for
sharing!
(8/6/2015
4:32:13 AM)
23
Crying...
Relate
too well, though I'm in between; kids almost all on their own but not blessed
with grandchildren yet. longing for at least a fraction of what you have BH
been blessed with. slowly I'm sure Hashem will help..for the time being i ought
to learn how to knit?!
(8/6/2015
4:33:52 AM)
24
Beautiful!
Holding
my baby right now and appreciating every second
(8/6/2015
5:11:28 AM)
25
True!
Very
true !
Thank you
Feel the same!!!
Thank you
Feel the same!!!
(8/6/2015
5:27:19 AM)
26
Velvel
And
all of this was done when there were no long day cares this is what youre
missing out on today. Cherish each moment
(8/6/2015
5:33:27 AM)
27
Love
it.
Great
article and you should have much nachas from all your children and
grandchildren and great-grandchildren one day.
(8/6/2015
5:58:56 AM)
28
To
all your grandchildren
Bobbie
wants you to relieve her from boredom.
Camp Leider is open. Haha
Camp Leider is open. Haha
(8/6/2015
6:29:56 AM)
29
a
wise woman
A
very wise woman told me before I married: Make sure your relationship with your
husband is always #1. Make sure that no matter how much you love and invest in
your children, when they leave the nest you will be able to live the rest of
your lives on a honeymoon period.
My first child is still a baby and im only in my 20's but I am working towards that every day :)
My first child is still a baby and im only in my 20's but I am working towards that every day :)
(8/6/2015
6:35:52 AM)
30
sonia
Lipschitz
Just
wonderfuL
(8/6/2015
6:36:37 AM)
31
Toby
You
are an amazing person
(8/6/2015
6:41:09 AM)
32
Only
one sister Toby
It
wasn't just your children that you took such wonderful care of, it was a
special experience being your younger brother. You were barely a teenager when
I was born, you added a special sweetness to my younger years, stories, walks,
jokes, the nosh, teaching me the ways of life, and just spending time with me.
I will always cherish that.
Realize just how good you really are!
Realize just how good you really are!
(8/6/2015
6:52:39 AM)
33
Been
there and now...
I
am also there.
B H raised and married off 8 beautiful shluchim.
Now my grandchildren occupy our warm home.
This is a great time to continue our our learning, volunteering and joining cheded organizations
There are stages in life and giving married children good advice is commendable
Invite your friends who are in the same situation and have a lunch and learn in you home
Yes it is lonely at times but fill it up with constructive activities
B H raised and married off 8 beautiful shluchim.
Now my grandchildren occupy our warm home.
This is a great time to continue our our learning, volunteering and joining cheded organizations
There are stages in life and giving married children good advice is commendable
Invite your friends who are in the same situation and have a lunch and learn in you home
Yes it is lonely at times but fill it up with constructive activities
(8/6/2015
7:07:42 AM)
34
Made
me cry
I'm
one of those mothers who's waiting for them to grow up, because it's hard and
bec I don't have a second to breathe... And I KNOW even now that I will regret
it one day... But I can't control it
(8/6/2015
7:08:00 AM)
35
#29
A
Very wise woman told you make sure your relationship with your husband is
#1?
I assume that same wise woman would say that make sure that your wife is #1 as well
I beg to differ….. all these comments are so la di da … yes we all need to Thank Hashem , Yes the Golus is soooo long .
All these Platitudes…
There is an old Yiddishe Vort … Until you get to the Kretchme you also need a drink so let's talk a little more then just the same old Platitudes….
Lets talk about our CHILDREN….. all the mesirus Nefesh Parents have for them……I do not think for one second a young couple having babies year after year… think at all about they are a "Present from Hashem"… yes of course deep down they "KNOW " it…
If true to be told People get married for various reasons….among many…. Don't want to be alone … social pressure (whether they are ready or not) and have kids to be there for them when they get old…and yes to do HASHEM'S WILL….among many various and numerous reasons….
I have and still am a wonderful parent worked like a dog for my family … took and take care of my children even after they are married many years…. on Shlicus etc….
By this time you may be asking yourself… What is this persons point…??
I too am experiencing this feeling of being lonely….No matter how good your relationship with your spouse is there is a connection that a parent has with their child ,that love ,,, that is special and unique above all other Loves within family Life..
and when that child "young" child marries whether in years or "young" in maturity …. and leaves their parents home…. leaves physically to start their own lives… and leave "emotionally" as well…. are Yoitzeh with phone calls and visits..but have no problem "taking"…. THAT in my opinion is wrong NOT the way of our parents grandparents the "OLD" true and tried Heimshe Yiddishe European way… Where Parents even when the children got married still took their parents feelings into account understood the Mesiras Nefesh their parents had for them…. and now realize that their are times in their Married lives when it is time ti show their parents that they TRULY love them …. not just by sending pictures in that SNAPSHOT albums mugs etc…. but showing them that they are there for them as needed… understanding that it is not a matter of parents not being able to let "GO" but life is not that simple as AMERICANS think it is….
That the greatest lesson one can show their OWN Children is the DERECH ERETZ … that Mummy and Tatty still give their parents….
I grew up seeing both my PARENTS giving the UTMOST derech Eretz to their parents …. and to each others parents…. we children admired it never felt unloved or anything of the sort… but felt Bobie and Zaidy were part of our family Their Dayos counted… etc
Toby …. you wrote a wonderful article …..just another perspective on the whole "Empty Nest "
Your Cousin…….
I assume that same wise woman would say that make sure that your wife is #1 as well
I beg to differ….. all these comments are so la di da … yes we all need to Thank Hashem , Yes the Golus is soooo long .
All these Platitudes…
There is an old Yiddishe Vort … Until you get to the Kretchme you also need a drink so let's talk a little more then just the same old Platitudes….
Lets talk about our CHILDREN….. all the mesirus Nefesh Parents have for them……I do not think for one second a young couple having babies year after year… think at all about they are a "Present from Hashem"… yes of course deep down they "KNOW " it…
If true to be told People get married for various reasons….among many…. Don't want to be alone … social pressure (whether they are ready or not) and have kids to be there for them when they get old…and yes to do HASHEM'S WILL….among many various and numerous reasons….
I have and still am a wonderful parent worked like a dog for my family … took and take care of my children even after they are married many years…. on Shlicus etc….
By this time you may be asking yourself… What is this persons point…??
I too am experiencing this feeling of being lonely….No matter how good your relationship with your spouse is there is a connection that a parent has with their child ,that love ,,, that is special and unique above all other Loves within family Life..
and when that child "young" child marries whether in years or "young" in maturity …. and leaves their parents home…. leaves physically to start their own lives… and leave "emotionally" as well…. are Yoitzeh with phone calls and visits..but have no problem "taking"…. THAT in my opinion is wrong NOT the way of our parents grandparents the "OLD" true and tried Heimshe Yiddishe European way… Where Parents even when the children got married still took their parents feelings into account understood the Mesiras Nefesh their parents had for them…. and now realize that their are times in their Married lives when it is time ti show their parents that they TRULY love them …. not just by sending pictures in that SNAPSHOT albums mugs etc…. but showing them that they are there for them as needed… understanding that it is not a matter of parents not being able to let "GO" but life is not that simple as AMERICANS think it is….
That the greatest lesson one can show their OWN Children is the DERECH ERETZ … that Mummy and Tatty still give their parents….
I grew up seeing both my PARENTS giving the UTMOST derech Eretz to their parents …. and to each others parents…. we children admired it never felt unloved or anything of the sort… but felt Bobie and Zaidy were part of our family Their Dayos counted… etc
Toby …. you wrote a wonderful article …..just another perspective on the whole "Empty Nest "
Your Cousin…….
(8/6/2015
7:35:58 AM)
36
Mom
of many, B"H
I
have 14+ children, B"H. None of them are married yet and most live at
home. I was told in the early years of my mommyhood to cherish every moment! I
feel that I have and continue to do that. This article was so well written.
Thank you!
I cherish every child, B"H, and thank Hashem for all of our gifts.
I cherish every child, B"H, and thank Hashem for all of our gifts.
(8/6/2015
7:44:32 AM)
37
Toby
! What a beautiful life you are having
We
are all on this trip together , Hashem has treated us with so much fun and
happiness , we worked hard , we tried our best , the nicest thing is we
duplicated ourselves into many new lives , Our Children ! Then our Grand
children , we are being duplicated again and again , מה זרעו בחיים אף הוא
בחיים
This is the greatest gift from Hashem !
Generations of Toby's and Yankel's for many generations to come , pat yourselves again for the greatest treasure you both possess you put all your energy into bringing such a beautiful family as the Rebbes shluchim and army .
All in all you did it ! א חסידישע שטוב על פי טהרת הקודש
This is the greatest gift from Hashem !
Generations of Toby's and Yankel's for many generations to come , pat yourselves again for the greatest treasure you both possess you put all your energy into bringing such a beautiful family as the Rebbes shluchim and army .
All in all you did it ! א חסידישע שטוב על פי טהרת הקודש
(8/6/2015
8:01:03 AM)
38
Thank
you so much for all your comments and acknowledgements
All
I can say to you my dear friend is,
Seize the moments you have now
I am talking now to the young ones that are struggling with a handful of kids of all ages!
Seize the moments of joy that pass through your home each day 😀
Seize and grasp those hysterical moments that make you laugh so hard and write them down in a happy family journal for one day😀
Did you know that you are creating history right now for your family!
Did you know that you are creating memories as we speak for your kids!
Stop look and listen and do some special things with your kids to make their childhood a most memorable experience!
Idea one: Each kids birthday should be a "date" with their parents. The child showers , gets all dressed up in their shabbos clothes and has a date with their parents that eve of their birthday to their favourite chosen restaurant/place.
On that date the child is asked to share 3 things they wish for in life (now this is suitable for kids from ages 3-30
Kidding aside. These special birthday dates are planting a memory so very special to last a lifetime!😀
2. Private Time Bedtime; to spend ten minutes each eve with each child (2 hrs!) talking to them about their day. No criticism permitted only positive talk. The bond is an enormous investment for both parent and child. From when the child is 2 till 22 If we give them that private time each day we are almost guaranteed to have an open communication especially in the teenage years when it's so difficult to connect to the very kids we love and care for so much. But if we start this habit from very young the kids will be so used to it that it won't be unusual to them to chat with their parents and have that trusting bond when they are older!😀
Seize the moments you have now
I am talking now to the young ones that are struggling with a handful of kids of all ages!
Seize the moments of joy that pass through your home each day 😀
Seize and grasp those hysterical moments that make you laugh so hard and write them down in a happy family journal for one day😀
Did you know that you are creating history right now for your family!
Did you know that you are creating memories as we speak for your kids!
Stop look and listen and do some special things with your kids to make their childhood a most memorable experience!
Idea one: Each kids birthday should be a "date" with their parents. The child showers , gets all dressed up in their shabbos clothes and has a date with their parents that eve of their birthday to their favourite chosen restaurant/place.
On that date the child is asked to share 3 things they wish for in life (now this is suitable for kids from ages 3-30
Kidding aside. These special birthday dates are planting a memory so very special to last a lifetime!😀
2. Private Time Bedtime; to spend ten minutes each eve with each child (2 hrs!) talking to them about their day. No criticism permitted only positive talk. The bond is an enormous investment for both parent and child. From when the child is 2 till 22 If we give them that private time each day we are almost guaranteed to have an open communication especially in the teenage years when it's so difficult to connect to the very kids we love and care for so much. But if we start this habit from very young the kids will be so used to it that it won't be unusual to them to chat with their parents and have that trusting bond when they are older!😀
(8/6/2015
8:19:14 AM)
39
to
#19
To
#19 with sincere understanding:
I understand only two well your experience and difficulties as the loving and devoted mother that I am sure you are.I do not write with empty words, but also share the same mothering experience. I do not usually comment on these forums, but felt compelled to answer your "still small voice" among the comments written in response to this article. Please allow me to give strength to you,as I have been through many trying times with our beautiful children within a large family,k:ah.
Please know as we know only too well from sources in Tanach, that the Ribono shel Olam gave us beautiful neshamos to raise to the best of our ability and it is He and only He who gives them their strengths and abilities or chas v'shalom the lack of tools to cope with life's challenges. You, no doubt have ,and will continue to be their loving and devoted mother, and may Hashem bentch you with much strength, tremendous nachas and the best of health for you and your family. To all of the readers of this article and the author, may you have continued nachas and enjoy all that Hashem has given you and savor each moment of yiddishe nachas .
I understand only two well your experience and difficulties as the loving and devoted mother that I am sure you are.I do not write with empty words, but also share the same mothering experience. I do not usually comment on these forums, but felt compelled to answer your "still small voice" among the comments written in response to this article. Please allow me to give strength to you,as I have been through many trying times with our beautiful children within a large family,k:ah.
Please know as we know only too well from sources in Tanach, that the Ribono shel Olam gave us beautiful neshamos to raise to the best of our ability and it is He and only He who gives them their strengths and abilities or chas v'shalom the lack of tools to cope with life's challenges. You, no doubt have ,and will continue to be their loving and devoted mother, and may Hashem bentch you with much strength, tremendous nachas and the best of health for you and your family. To all of the readers of this article and the author, may you have continued nachas and enjoy all that Hashem has given you and savor each moment of yiddishe nachas .
(8/6/2015
8:30:14 AM)
40
grand
children
Reb
Yankel Lipskier (770 gabai that build the 770 aron kodesh) once went over to
the Rebbe by a farbrengen to say lechaim and tell the Rebbe that his 10th
einikl was born. the Rebbe told him "אייניקלאך ציילט מען ניט"
(8/6/2015
8:48:31 AM)
41
to
number 13
Have
one more baby? And who will pay their tuition? Don't tell me it will all work
out And to trust in Hashem when my children sit at home confused because there
cheder will not let them in until we pay more tuition which we just don't have.
I would appreciate my children more and actually enjoy them if I wasn't struggling under a mountain of tuition.
(8/6/2015
8:57:26 AM)
42
take
advantage of every stage in your life
Every
phase in our life is a gift. We have a choice to do what ever we want to do
with it. Empty nest? That means we can spend more time davening like a mentch.
More time to go to Shiurim. More time for Chesed. The main thing is to keep
active with positive things until we get Moshiach here, NOW!!
(8/6/2015
9:04:29 AM)
43
Love
this article
Such
beautiful, honest writing!!
I love the part which you write that 'children are a loan from Hashem'. So true! You can feel fulfilled that you did your part so beautifully and set up to continue on with their families...
I love the part which you write that 'children are a loan from Hashem'. So true! You can feel fulfilled that you did your part so beautifully and set up to continue on with their families...
(8/6/2015
9:06:46 AM)
44
Your
Article Resonates with me except for one thing....
As
a Mum who "waited" several years before being blessed with the
miracle of Motherhood, I never thought about the "empty nest." I was
so grateful for every minute. I therefore tell each young mothers that while it
is very hard, the years fly by, all too fast and then one is in the position
that Mrs. Lieder and I are in at present: we look at the photos, etc. and
wonder where the years have gone?
Yes, our children are on loan to us from Hashem, but I still miss my full house, as well as the kochot that I used to have when I was in charge!
Penina Metal
Yes, our children are on loan to us from Hashem, but I still miss my full house, as well as the kochot that I used to have when I was in charge!
Penina Metal
(8/6/2015
9:24:43 AM)
45
safta
s
All
true but each chapter gets better. I am lucky to enjoy my children and
grandchildren cause BH we all live near each other in eretzisrael. In addition,
i have a little sweet girl dog which keeps me company and that is
wonderful.
(8/6/2015
10:09:56 AM)
46
33
and 42....totally agree
Great
article and enjoyable all the participation. Some of my children more then
others, i constantly felt that they are here to do the Eibershter s rotzon, and
brought them up with my heart full of intention for them to be ibergegebn to
the Rebbe... And the results are BH gebentched in all ways!
(8/6/2015
10:17:45 AM)
47
Thanks
for sharing!,
So
wonderful to see so many comments on such a positive beautiful article! MoveD
to tears, very touching
(8/6/2015
10:21:28 AM)
48
You
are not alone!! B7 MN
I
can see the comments show there are many of us with the same voice. You worded
it beautifully. Kol hakavod and Hashem should bless you to enjoy your garden
close up for many many years to come.
(8/6/2015
10:22:03 AM)
49
beautiful!
beautifully
written! I agree with #20! You should definitely write a book! and yes # 47 I
second that. this should be the "first" of many more!
(8/6/2015
10:47:09 AM)
50
amazing
Im
not yet there, but i am feeling lonely eventhough all my kids are still home.
and always have this SCARE of "what happens when they ALL leave the
house" my little one is only 10yrs old i feel for you
(8/6/2015
10:50:58 AM)
51
Brought
me almost to tears
Thank
you for this beautiful article.
This is what COL should be posting, and then nobody would have any complaints.
Its honest, raw, uplifting and has a great message.
You are a lucky lady to have had the wisdom to have 14 kids.I have a small family and wish I had more.
Thank you for sharing this, truly beautiful. Thank you.
This is what COL should be posting, and then nobody would have any complaints.
Its honest, raw, uplifting and has a great message.
You are a lucky lady to have had the wisdom to have 14 kids.I have a small family and wish I had more.
Thank you for sharing this, truly beautiful. Thank you.
(8/6/2015
10:54:30 AM)
52
Empty
nest...
Yup...
Empty nest. Raised nine kids BH.All married BH.All left home and are all over
the world on Shlichus.All BH have kids. We are home alone.... No grandkids
coming over, no yom Tov family together as they all are needed in their place
of Shlichus... I count my blessings...I am grateful to the Abishter...
Is this what the Rebbe meant? No kids near home....
Is this what the Rebbe meant? No kids near home....
(8/6/2015
10:58:02 AM)
53
beautiful
so
so beautiful. I don't cry easily, and as a mum of young children with a hectic
household BH this reigned true
Thank you toby! You have a heart that is in tune
Thank you toby! You have a heart that is in tune
(8/6/2015
11:33:33 AM)
54
Toby
is not only an awesome MOM but an amazing
dedicated
Shadchan too!!! I have never seen dedication to the cause like Toby has shown
to my daughter while dating...and she stays on board coaching the young new
datees to guide them thru to help them achieve clarity! Toby we are ever so
grateful to you!!
(8/6/2015
11:51:58 AM)
55
Just
wondering.................
Which
stories did you tell your kids? Sarah pick up that dime or He is watching you
(8/6/2015
12:48:27 PM)
56
Remember
the husband
Thanks
for the beautiful article. I would like to add to it by emphasizing the
importance of actively nurturing the relationship with the spouse through all
the kiddie years and when it is just the two of you, you will have each other.
Your husband is the only one in the world who really will be with you all your
life (hopefully). Be grateful for that blessing and spend the time post kiddies
enjoying life and the world together. From someone who is not married, just
having a spouse is a whole world. 'One other' is a whole different universe
from... none other.
(8/6/2015
1:17:43 PM)
57
Beautiful!
What
an amazingly written article!
Mrs Lieder describes literally word for word, feeling for feeling, thought for thought exactly what so many of us are going through;
"The empty nest syndrome is something I always read.heard about, and never dreamt that would 'happen' to me!:(
Like, I thought having all the kids home was a forever thing, and this would just be my life, full stop;
and then with the added 'bonus' of having the kids leave home, and move all over the world, so that you see them , if you're lucky, twice a year, thats really the salt on the wounds . . .
So Toby, I really hear you, and thank you for sharing, its nice to know Im not alone in this;
May we have Moshiach now, so that all of us will have our kids and grandkids, next door, and 'empty nest syndrome' will no longer exist!
Mrs Lieder describes literally word for word, feeling for feeling, thought for thought exactly what so many of us are going through;
"The empty nest syndrome is something I always read.heard about, and never dreamt that would 'happen' to me!:(
Like, I thought having all the kids home was a forever thing, and this would just be my life, full stop;
and then with the added 'bonus' of having the kids leave home, and move all over the world, so that you see them , if you're lucky, twice a year, thats really the salt on the wounds . . .
So Toby, I really hear you, and thank you for sharing, its nice to know Im not alone in this;
May we have Moshiach now, so that all of us will have our kids and grandkids, next door, and 'empty nest syndrome' will no longer exist!
(8/6/2015
1:42:32 PM)
58
To
#11
I
might add a line on cleanliness from the Gemarra Tractate Sotah at the very
end:"Cleanliness is next to G-dliness"--"U'nekiyus
Mayveeoh....Lidei Ruach HaKodesh" ...
This was the caption on our 'Clean-up Flag' in Gan Yisroel in Montreal when we won 'Clean-up Day.
I too have a Mishpacha Bruchas Yelodim Boruch Hashem with 9 children already married. With each marriage there are more grand- children B"H and the'nest' keeps on getting emptier...I can fully relate to Mrs.Lieder's beautifully written article;Yasher Kochachen!
This was the caption on our 'Clean-up Flag' in Gan Yisroel in Montreal when we won 'Clean-up Day.
I too have a Mishpacha Bruchas Yelodim Boruch Hashem with 9 children already married. With each marriage there are more grand- children B"H and the'nest' keeps on getting emptier...I can fully relate to Mrs.Lieder's beautifully written article;Yasher Kochachen!
(8/6/2015
1:49:28 PM)
59
CHESED
FOR HASHEM
Yes,
the hours and days seem to shlep but the months and years really do fly by.
There is no reason to be sad. B"H we are able to raise our children so
that they become responsible adults facing the world and beginning the cycle of
life anew. We need to be thankful to Hashem for being honored with caring for
the holy neshamas he entrusted to us. Everything we do, from changing diapers,
to feeding, clothing, nurturing, educating our children, is a chesed. Sweeping
and mopping floors is a chesed. We are preparing our homes, our own Mikdash
Mayat, for the Shechina to rest in our homes. We need to take time to dress
nicely at home. If we look shloompy we'll feel shloopy but if we look
attractive we'll feel attrractive, be in a positive mood, and everyone around us
will be in a good mood.
Raising a family is one of the highest forms of chesed. We have the ability to elevate the most mundane to the spiritual. When we do laundry we ensure our family has clean clothing to wear; when we cook/bake we know our families will elevate the food from mundane to spiritual because they will make a bracha before eating and bracha achrona after the meal.
We need to be grateful that we lived to raise our families and eagerly await the next chapters in our lives which will, please G-d, be fulfilling and rewarding. We will have the time to indulge in nurturing ourselves - time to do things for pleasure - so we can keep ourselves fresh in order to serve Hashem.
It is a mitzvah to be joyful and to serve Hashem with love and joy.
Raising a family is one of the highest forms of chesed. We have the ability to elevate the most mundane to the spiritual. When we do laundry we ensure our family has clean clothing to wear; when we cook/bake we know our families will elevate the food from mundane to spiritual because they will make a bracha before eating and bracha achrona after the meal.
We need to be grateful that we lived to raise our families and eagerly await the next chapters in our lives which will, please G-d, be fulfilling and rewarding. We will have the time to indulge in nurturing ourselves - time to do things for pleasure - so we can keep ourselves fresh in order to serve Hashem.
It is a mitzvah to be joyful and to serve Hashem with love and joy.
(8/6/2015
2:09:15 PM)
60
To
#52
With
your current 'condition',i recommend that you take more advantage of 'Skype'
and 'Facetime'.It might be a small 'Nechama'...
(8/6/2015
2:13:49 PM)
61
The
Quiet Doesn't Stay Quiet for Long
Shalom
Mrs. Lieder, Boruch Hashem you have a lovely family. I became ba'alas teshuvah
by being "adopted" into a yeshiva family in 2001. When I first
started to meet the second generation (the grown children of my
"adopters") most had young tots or were still having children. Only
one had a married child. My friends are now great grandparents, with the very
first great grandchild now a strapping 16 year old. When I first met Shimmy, it
was before his upsherin ... and I didn't even know what that was. (I wondered
why they had his girly-looking hair tied in a ponytail.) I just can't believe
how that family has grown to a multi-generational dynasty of its own... with
not a single one having left the path. I've shared in their joys, blessings and
even their losses. It is very humbling to have merited being part of it. May
you enjoy many more blessings, and bli ayin hora, may your family continue to
grow in Hashem's path. And truly enjoy your "empty nest." Watching my
friends, the quiet doesn't stay quiet long for the bubbehs and the zeidehs.
Leah, in Toronto
(8/6/2015
2:30:17 PM)
62
Thank
you!!
Beautiful
article Toby!!! Such an important reminder----thank you!! btw I still try give
my kids the 'minimum 40 kisses a day' that you once taught me in Shterny and
Nechama Dina's meaningful motherhood! You're such a wise lady , love Tanya
(8/6/2015
2:34:50 PM)
63
N0
52
I
echo your sentiments totally:(
We too have no children or grandchildren nearby, we have the syndrome in the full sense of the word
We too have no children or grandchildren nearby, we have the syndrome in the full sense of the word
(8/6/2015
3:11:01 PM)
64
Really
touched
I
was woken up at 5am by my crying baby for the fourth time in the night, feeling
so resentful that hes not sleep trained, and hes already 6 months, and why
won't he just let me sleep a little. Feeling so frustrated as im nursing him,
and then I read this! Oh, what ablessing to have such a special reason
disturbing my sleep! Thank you hashem thank you!
(8/6/2015
3:16:23 PM)
65
To
#59
Well
written,thank you so much!
(8/6/2015
3:16:27 PM)
66
Loved
it
Toby
you and rabbi Leider are my heros
Only simchas
Only simchas
(8/6/2015
4:38:19 PM)
67
Don't
be negative
Toby
seems to have a bad case of Empty Nest Syndrome. And her perspective about it
is not as positive as it could be. A mother in her situation has a choice, she
can wallow in self pity abut not having her kids at home or she can see this as
an opportunity for personal growth. There are so many wonderful things an older
woman can do that will be productive and fulfilling for her, and she has many
long healthy years IY"H ahead. Find some dreams and get busy with them
instead of only bemoaning the lost years of mothering children.
(8/6/2015
5:38:33 PM)
68
And
stay home with your kids!
Also
had Kah same large family. Still have 4 home, but I'm really scared about the
next couple years. Used to being so busy,crazy and hectic, won't know what to
do with myself. Grandchildren all live out of town. I see an empty nest
Facebook group...for chabadniks
(8/6/2015
6:27:57 PM)
69
Toda
Raba Meod Meod
You
absolutely special person and I'm very lucky to have you in my life
(8/6/2015
7:32:21 PM)
70
thank
you!
Just
exactly what I needed to hear!
(8/6/2015
7:50:58 PM)
71
bobby
age
lovely
article yes I totally agree my mother also told me these years when the kids
are young and needy are the best!
(8/6/2015
8:36:51 PM)
72
THANK
YOU SO MUCH!!!
I
really appreciate this article. I'm a tatty who is in the beginning middle of
the road and this really talks to me.
Thanks so much!!!
Thanks so much!!!
(8/6/2015
9:54:55 PM)
73
thanks
We
learned from a friend to call it " open nesters". Hashem gave us kids
so we can grow with them in the nest or out. Living to enjoy all the nachas
they and the grandchildren bring is the.reason Hashem put us on this beautiful
world. Enjoy each second the gift as yours.
(8/6/2015
10:11:43 PM)
74
to
# 14!
Thx
for posting Mrs. Toby Lieder's blogspot! It'e REALLY GOOD as well as this
article!
(8/6/2015
10:52:37 PM)
75
Dear
Toby what a great article !!!!!!
From
you Younger brother Mendel
You are the best!
You are the best!
76
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Some Love Life And Laughter
Click
onto
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You will see more of Tobys articles and collections!
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(8/6/2015
11:53:23 PM)
77
Sad
and depressing
I
find this article very disturbing. My mother suffers this empty nest syndrome
but wont do anything constructive about it. She and my father plot and fight
with all their married kids just so she can still be the focal part in our
lives . Obviously this has backfired and they just alienating them selves more
. they don't actually want to be part of the nitty gritty of our lives and
grandchildren's lives they just want the attention all for themselves .
I will never be like that so that is why as I approach my kids getting older and see within a few short years they are going to leave home , I have gone back to school ( flexible that doesn't impose on my family's needs now) and starting to think about life after the kids so I don't walk around looking for them in their beds after they leave.
My husband and I are best of friends and I look forward to spending more time with him, starting up a business and being their for the kids and grandkids if they need and want me but not to fulfill my boredom or loneliness!
I will never be like that so that is why as I approach my kids getting older and see within a few short years they are going to leave home , I have gone back to school ( flexible that doesn't impose on my family's needs now) and starting to think about life after the kids so I don't walk around looking for them in their beds after they leave.
My husband and I are best of friends and I look forward to spending more time with him, starting up a business and being their for the kids and grandkids if they need and want me but not to fulfill my boredom or loneliness!
(8/7/2015
1:13:08 AM)
78
Rabbi
and Toby lieder
You
guys are amazing. I spent a year in Sydney in some and shlichus 24 years ago
and they are one couple I remember, they had a house full of kids and bet 4-8
no one was aloud to come to the house, they didn't speak on phones and that was
the time they took care of their kids. I remember it so well. Toby you were
always an inspiration.
We all thought you were the perfect mother (we were right)
Your life was your kids and nothing else can get in the way.
May Hashem bentch you to have only chassidishe nachas from all of them and they should build big beautiful families as you did.
We all thought you were the perfect mother (we were right)
Your life was your kids and nothing else can get in the way.
May Hashem bentch you to have only chassidishe nachas from all of them and they should build big beautiful families as you did.
(8/7/2015
2:23:48 AM)
79
Toby
Replies
Thank
you everyone for your warm feedback
I had no idea this article would touch so many
I was just sharing my soulfull thoughts with you about the new stage that one enters in life and is not quite prepared for!
I learned these days to be creative and get involved in numerous fulfilling projects like starting my own blog and sharing the best of everything I have collected over 40 years! There's still tons more to share It'll take a lifetime to finish! I am busy that wasn't my point when I said it is lonely. No matter how busy we are we still "crave" those good Ol days , you know what I mean!? I know we can't get them back and it's in the past and I'm ok with 'getting that' it's just a "feeling of missing the whole hoolabla of family life that we had for so many years
The music in the kitchen while preparing for shabbos , dishing orders to everyone to do their jobs ,the dinners the shabbosim the full house (each kid brought only just one friend!) the noise the laughter the dmc Friday night after the meal etc. I am just expressing that I miss those days I'm not negative or complaining I'm merely expressing a feeling. Are we allowed to express feelings without being judged for being negative? It's actually just sharing. its healthy to share especially if even just one person learns from it and gets to appreciate the value of TIME. I want the young ones to know that everything is so temporary and "chap arayn" and have as many kids as Hashem blesses us with and not think about convenience because you know something? Hashem will keep you busy with other things and the money will go for other things nobody gets away with it being easy so you may as well bring Neshomos into the world for the same price!
I remember someone once saying Hashem spreads out the parnassa to 2 or 20 kids ! One can be running to doctors with 2 kids or 20 kids it's all cheshboned out We cannot be smarter then Hashem! I worked as hard as someone that had 4 kids. So we may as well have 14 if it's all the same! It's a gift it's like Hashem is offering you diamonds and you say No Thank you?
I guarantee that it is is so worth the effort at the end of the day! Don't be misled by society and think your getting away with an easier more financially secure life by limiting your diamonds. Hashem will definitely bless you with the koiach the energy to handle them! Ain Hakodesh Boruch Hu Bo Btrunia I'm Breeosov 😀 Hashem doesn't give us more then we can handle! Open your arms and accept the gift of children and Hashem will provide! Enjoy those diamonds! They are generations of people that are going to bring thousands more Neshomos into this world. I always said what would happen if my Bubby winter's mother decided not to give birth to her? Where would over a thousand of us be today? We wouldn't be. Every diamond is generations of Neshomos lets open our arms and minds and accept the gifts that Hashem showers upon us! Till all the Neshomos will bring Moshiach NOW
I had no idea this article would touch so many
I was just sharing my soulfull thoughts with you about the new stage that one enters in life and is not quite prepared for!
I learned these days to be creative and get involved in numerous fulfilling projects like starting my own blog and sharing the best of everything I have collected over 40 years! There's still tons more to share It'll take a lifetime to finish! I am busy that wasn't my point when I said it is lonely. No matter how busy we are we still "crave" those good Ol days , you know what I mean!? I know we can't get them back and it's in the past and I'm ok with 'getting that' it's just a "feeling of missing the whole hoolabla of family life that we had for so many years
The music in the kitchen while preparing for shabbos , dishing orders to everyone to do their jobs ,the dinners the shabbosim the full house (each kid brought only just one friend!) the noise the laughter the dmc Friday night after the meal etc. I am just expressing that I miss those days I'm not negative or complaining I'm merely expressing a feeling. Are we allowed to express feelings without being judged for being negative? It's actually just sharing. its healthy to share especially if even just one person learns from it and gets to appreciate the value of TIME. I want the young ones to know that everything is so temporary and "chap arayn" and have as many kids as Hashem blesses us with and not think about convenience because you know something? Hashem will keep you busy with other things and the money will go for other things nobody gets away with it being easy so you may as well bring Neshomos into the world for the same price!
I remember someone once saying Hashem spreads out the parnassa to 2 or 20 kids ! One can be running to doctors with 2 kids or 20 kids it's all cheshboned out We cannot be smarter then Hashem! I worked as hard as someone that had 4 kids. So we may as well have 14 if it's all the same! It's a gift it's like Hashem is offering you diamonds and you say No Thank you?
I guarantee that it is is so worth the effort at the end of the day! Don't be misled by society and think your getting away with an easier more financially secure life by limiting your diamonds. Hashem will definitely bless you with the koiach the energy to handle them! Ain Hakodesh Boruch Hu Bo Btrunia I'm Breeosov 😀 Hashem doesn't give us more then we can handle! Open your arms and accept the gift of children and Hashem will provide! Enjoy those diamonds! They are generations of people that are going to bring thousands more Neshomos into this world. I always said what would happen if my Bubby winter's mother decided not to give birth to her? Where would over a thousand of us be today? We wouldn't be. Every diamond is generations of Neshomos lets open our arms and minds and accept the gifts that Hashem showers upon us! Till all the Neshomos will bring Moshiach NOW
(8/7/2015
2:41:15 AM)
80
Busy
Mama
Wow!
Speechless! Tears running down my face. Thanks!!
(8/7/2015
2:52:14 AM)
81
Proud
of you mommy!
Guess
which child this is? Hehe! I am proud to say mommy you are and were the best
mommy ever. You taught us how to love and laugh and that happiness is more
important than anything. As I read the part of having a child on every corner
of the bed I remember that. How you and ta accepted us each into your room each
of us for our own reasons but you kept us close and told us stories. Anyone who
says a large family makes you miss out on a lot In life, I as an adult can say
I learnt from a young age how to share, how to love, and be loved by two of the
most amazing parents ever, they also parented endless guests as well as us and
taught us hachnasas orchchim and endless kindness! Mommy be proud because you
gave us every part of you and we will carry it on I"h to our children,
love E
(8/7/2015
11:54:50 AM)
82
C.B.
Don't
they come and visit sometimes?
(8/7/2015
11:56:55 AM)
83
To
#79-Mrs.Toby Lieder Tichyeh
Thank
you so much for your wonderful words in your 'Post-Script'.
A gutten Shabbos to you and to all the esteemed readers of this most heartwarming article.
A special 'thank you' to C.O.L. for hosting this forum.
A gutten Shabbos to you and to all the esteemed readers of this most heartwarming article.
A special 'thank you' to C.O.L. for hosting this forum.
(8/7/2015
1:33:25 PM)
84
from
Tanta Toby G,
Dear
Toby,
Haven't heard or spoken to you in years. My kids showed me your article and I shepped nachas! Just remember that Hashem runs the world. Nothing happens by itself. Just sit back an enjoy!!
luv!! Luv!!
Haven't heard or spoken to you in years. My kids showed me your article and I shepped nachas! Just remember that Hashem runs the world. Nothing happens by itself. Just sit back an enjoy!!
luv!! Luv!!
(8/7/2015
4:14:45 PM)
85
YES
COUNT
YOUR BLESSINGS AND CONCENTRATE ON THEM!!!!!!
(8/8/2015
6:04:25 PM)
86
Needed
this!
Thank
you so much for such a wonderful article! As someone who just entered this
stage of life and trying to navigate it I was glad to read this and see that I
'm not the only one.
I also appreciated the post scripts and the input of others who have gone through this. Any more thoughts that can added to this would be most welcome!
I also appreciated the post scripts and the input of others who have gone through this. Any more thoughts that can added to this would be most welcome!
(8/8/2015
9:57:30 PM)
87
my
grandson calls me Gampa
Your
story is on the money, now my wife and I look forward to our weekly visits with
our grandson charlie........
(8/8/2015
10:11:41 PM)
88
Great!
A
beautiful person! A great mother! Am amazing article!!
(8/8/2015
11:16:45 PM)
89
Toby!
Remember
me? Have'nt seen u in 40? yrs........
very pertinent article! Thank you!
Freida Shpigelman (Gerlitzky)
very pertinent article! Thank you!
Freida Shpigelman (Gerlitzky)
(8/9/2015
11:11:59 PM)
90
Another
Mother's reply
I
liked your reply to the list of previous writers. There is one thing that I
hear that young mothers miss and I only learned once mine were older. That is
that you cannot imagine the effect of what you do for your children. Every time
you bake challah with them, it creates a dynamic in their being. Do not wait
till they are older and finally express what they were feeling all the years,
but never came out. Many times as the children were teens and adults, they
said, OH Mommy, what you did then was so meaningful to me, or the time we went
here or there was so fantastic, I want to do that with my children. Know as
young parents that everything you do makes an imprint on your children, even
things that you feel are immaterial. Enjoy each stage, and do your best. That
is all that you can do and they love you for it.
(8/10/2015 8:59:50 AM)
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