Wow Wedding from 10 Guests To Over A Thousand

Facebook to the rescue: From 10 wedding guests to 2,000

Only a handful of relatives arrived at the wedding of an Israeli couple; a social media post by a relative saved the event, drawing a huge crowd of well-wishers.

Ran Boker, Noa Jaslowitzer

Published:  08.03.15, 09:30 / Israel News

A Facebook post helped save an Israeli couple's wedding day on Sunday, drawing up to 2,000 people to the virtually empty event space.

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Annette and Lior Solomon were getting married at the Harmonia Bagan event space. Apparently, some relatives assumed the event had been cancelled because the bride's father had passed away.

The bride, Annette Solomon (Photo: Avi Roccah)

"The bride," read the post, "lost both her parents in the last two years. Her father passed away a month ago, and now there is no one there except for a few relatives. You don't need a gift, you don't need money. Just come fill the auditorium, fulfill a mitzvah, and make a bride and groom happy."

The response was enthusiastic, with around a thousand or even two thousand people arriving at the event space.

Lior Solomon carried by revelers (Photo: Avi Roccah)

Rivka, a relative of the groom, said: "What happened was that I arrived at the wedding and saw that it was almost ten at night and there were no people. I thought I had gone to the wrong place. There were only ten people. I saw my uncle and asked, 'Where is everyone?' He told me, 'they didn't come.' And then I told myself that I would start posting. So it passed through word of mouth and more than two thousand people came. These are the Israeli people at their best. The groom and bride cried. Understand, at the wedding canopy they were alone. After the story was published, people came to make them happy."

The eventual turnout did not disappoint (Photo: Avi Roccah)

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Some guests didn't even know which names to write on checks (Photo: Avi Roccah)

Challenges

How to Deal with What You Feel: 4 Breakthrough Guidelines for Facing Difficult Times.

Via Emma Derman Teitelon Feb 8, 2015

Just when it seemed like things were going smoothly and in the direction that you wanted, bam! You get hit with the unexpected and even the unimaginable.

Sound familiar?

Perhaps it takes the form of a difficult internal challenge, an external disappointment or a major loss. These experiences can take your breath away, sometimes with awe at the power of life and other times like a punch in the stomach.

With each passing year, I am starting to soften more and more deeply into the unpredictable nature of life. I’m realizing that to live is to stand with two feet fully in the ocean without any certainty as to when a wave will come or go, or whether I will live or die.

We do not get to know exactly how big a wave will be, but we can guarantee that at some point it will arrive. Inevitably the wave will crash, and eventually it will also recede. With this wave might arrive a jubilant thrill or a terrifying fall. There is an inherent vulnerability to this human life, and it is imperative that we consistently care for ourselves amidst the ever-changing tides.

Below are four guidelines to support you on your journey, wherever you may find yourself in the great sea of life.

4 Essential Guidelines for Facing Difficult Times:

1. Put on your own oxygen mask first.

Most women are keenly aware of the people and needs that surround them. Whether you believe this instinct originates from nurture or nature is not what matters in this moment. Instead the caretaker impulse is something to be aware of. When a stressor of any sort comes into your life, it is essential to prioritize yourself first. Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” Wait and listen for a response that feels authentic. There is no “right” or “wrong” here, simply honor what is true.

Often times, when we feel overwhelmed, anxious or sad, there can be an unconscious instinct to ask what someone else needs or to fill our time with activities that serve someone else’s agenda, not our own.

In order to avoid this habitual pitfall, I recommend you create a list of 10 things that reliably nourish and support you. Ideally, make this list at a time when you are not in crisis or overwhelm, so that when challenge does arise, instead of getting swallowed in a swamp of debilitating emotions, you can seek out items on your list for a lifeline.

If you’re having a hard time knowing what you need in the wake of a difficult experience, here is a list of some possibilities to inspire you:

1. A 30 minute walk outside
2. 15 minutes writing in your journal
3. Getting in the bath or shower
4. Listening to some relaxing music
5. Calling a supportive and loving friend/family member
6. Scheduling an appointment with a therapist, mentor or spiritual guide
7. Delegating a task at work that will alleviate additional stress
8. Asking your partner, housemate or friend to do something you normally do in order to relieve some pressure
9. Reading an uplifting book
10. Meditating and/or praying and asking for support and guidance

2. Ask for what you want and need.

Once you have taken the space and time to attune to yourself and figure out what you want and need, determine which of the items on your list you can fulfill on your own and which might require support. For example, if we were to refer to the list above, you can meet your own needs by taking yourself on a walk, getting in the bath or listening to some relaxing music. Some of the other items on the list such as scheduling an appointment with a therapist or delegating a task at work or at home require something from someone else.

Do not be afraid to reach out and ask for what you need. More often than not, people want to help out and will be glad you asked.

Particularly, if you have already done the hard work of tuning into yourself, others are even more likely to support you because they don’t feel that you are desperate, needy or demanding something from them. Instead, they can feel you making a solid and clear request for help as you navigate whatever difficulty you are facing.

For many women, asking for support can be one of the most difficult tasks. If you notice that you are having trouble requesting help, inquire within as to why. Very often when this happens, it is because you are afraid of something.

3. Feel your feelings, don’t push them away.

Doing things to soothe yourself and asking for the support you need creates a solid foundation and safe container to then begin the hard work of feeling your feelings.

In my experience, there are two primary ways that women relate to their emotions. Either we deny, repress and ignore the true depth of what we are feeling or we become completely consumed and stuck in extreme emotional states for very long periods of time.

Whichever way is your tendency, both approaches are a mechanism for remaining disconnected to the present moment.

With courage, support and an internal witness, there is the possibility to feel the full extent of our feelings in any given moment, without becoming permanently paralyzed and stuck in our emotionality. Ask yourself, which tendency is more typical for you.

If you tend to be the type to push away your feelings, notice what you are doing instead of feeling. Perhaps you are eating, exercising or habitually checking email. Whatever you are doing does not make you “bad” or “wrong,” simply notice and acknowledge to yourself that you are avoiding your feelings. The acknowledgment itself can create immediate permission for the part of you that is sidestepping your emotions, and often opens the door so you can start feeling your feelings.

If you are more of the type to get lost in your emotions, try creating some boundaries for yourself. This could look like setting a timer for 15-30 minutes and giving yourself full permission to feel your emotions. Make sure you are in a safe place and not harming yourself or another. Make a solid commitment to yourself that when the timer goes off, you are going to transition to something that will support a shift in your perspective.

Perhaps, commit to doing something from the list you created above. If you are facing a particularly intense challenge in your life, you may need to carve out a solid amount of time every day focused specifically on creating space for your emotions. Honor yourself by creating conscious times and places to do this, so that you can also stay present with the ever-changing states you will go through.

Often times when we are experiencing extreme disempowerment, for example, we can get locked into a mentality that this is the only thing occurring, when in fact, if we stay attentive to the more subtle nuances of each moment, many other things are also emerging in our minds, bodies and emotions in addition to the feelings of disempowerment.

4. Remember that what you are experiencing right now will not stay the same forever.

The only promise of the present moment is that it is ever-changing. This is simultaneously terrifying and liberating. The terror exists because nothing lives forever and this presses against one of the most painful aspects of human life, that of loss and separation.

And yet the liberation arrives in the very same fact: nothing lives forever—not the sorrow, nor the pain, nor the grief.

Our souls are in a constant journey and they desire to move towards balance. When we can start to view the challenges and heartache of life as an opportunity to become just a little more alive, a doorway opens and there is a choice to walk through it.

A note to the reader: This is not a quick-fix strategy. Disappointment, grief, trauma and loss are very real parts of the human journey, and can sometimes take years to integrate, feel and heal. Have compassion with yourself and get the support you need. May these four guidelines serve you deeply and offer solace in difficult times.

Something To Think About! Over 100 Quotes

Something To Think About!

By: Toby Lieder

•     You can multiply happiness by dividing it

•     The highest reward for a person's toil  is  not     what  they get for it, but what they become by it.

•     The only people, with whom you should try and get even with, are those who have helped you!

•     The best way to forget your own problems to help others solve theirs!

•      If we are patient in one moment of anger, we will escape a hundred days of sorrow!

•     You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving!

•     God, when we are wrong, make us willing to change, and when we are right, make us easy to             live with'.

•     Temper gets you into trouble, pride keeps you there!

•     It doesn't matter what you do for a living. If u love it. You are a success!

•    The time to relax is when you don't have time for it!

    If it weren't for the last minute, very little would get done!

•    Thinking          is  the  hardest          work   there  is, which are probably                  very few people engage in it!

•     How people   play  the game, shows something of their characters, how they lose, shows all of it.

•     If you want good children, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.

•     The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place. But, even more so         to leave the unsaid the wrong thing, at the tempting moment!

•     If the whole world obeyed the 10   commandments there might not be 10:00 news!

•     A good marriage is a union of 2 forgivers!!

•     Loving can cost a lot, but not loving always cost more!

•     Love lights more fires, than hate extinguishes.

•     Blessed are those, who give without remembering, and take without forgetting!

•     Some people make the future and others wait for the future to make them!

•     Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish one's growth, without destroying one's roots!

•     The most difficult thing for people to say in 25 words or less is "good bye."

•     The most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen nor touched but they are felt in the heart.

•     The advice your child rejected, is now been given to your grandchild.

•      NEVER SAY NEVER!

•      Nothing succeeds like success!

•    Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch words, they become actions.

     Watch your actions,  they become  habits.  Watch  your  habits,  they become character.

     Watch your character, It  becomes your destiny.

•    To make a good salad is to be brilliant diplomat. One must know exactly how much oil, one must       put with vinegar.

•    The one and only place success come before work is in the dictionary.

•    What can I do for you, rather then, what can you do for me

•    Hashgocha Protis  meant to be

•    Be Loyal. Time of sorrow time of joy

•    Understand before being understood

•    2 compliments please

•    Picasso imperfect painting

•    Give people what they need they’ll give u what you want

•    Can give w/o loving but cannot love w/o giving

•    Kid asked for 1 hour of dads time present

•    Say excellent you’ll start to feel excellent

•    What gets praised gets repeated

•    Don’t talk slander people wont trust you

•    You never know when your making history

•    Keep commitments follow your promises

•    Give 101% get more then expected

•    Be a good finder, glass breaks clean floor

•    Loving cost a lot, not loving even more

•    What is the best present you ever got?

•    What 3 things give you the biggest wow

•    If you had a free week what would you do

•    An ideal world what would it look like?

•    Gps know where coming from going to

•    Airplane is off compass most of the time

•    Change isn’t easy 14 days new habit

•    Traffic lights down chaos need rules

•    The ew and the ah business before pleasure

•    The law of attraction farmer boy

•    Little birdie with dirt under his nose

•    Attitude train ride wild kids

•    Sandwich criticisms praise before and after

•    Future oriented

•    Love n hate exercise

•    Stick on memos of acknowledgement

•    On a scale of 1-10

•    People are more important then things

•    The dot in the email small dot

•    Compliments game

•    Birthday date with each child individually

•    Follow your heart

•    Hole in sidewalk

•    Listen to the other w/o interruption

•    Private time

•    Seize the moments to help someone

     Life is like photography we develop from the negatives

·      Cuddling literally kills depression, relieves anxiety and strengthens the immune system

·      We have so many needs in our life, but at the end of the day all we need is to be needed

·      Why is my bed so much more comfortable in the morning then at night?

·      Dear sleep. I’m sorry I hated you when I was younger, now I cant get enough of you!

·      It doesn’t matter who hurt you or broke you down it matters who picked you up and made         you smile again!

·      Stop wishing start doing

·      How old would you be if you don’t know how old you are?

     Insist on yourself never imitate

·      Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

·      Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you’ll fall amongst stars

·      What would you attempt to do if you knew you could never fail?

·      Don’t spend your life living with someone you can live with, spend it with the one you cant          live without!

·      Enjoy the little things in life because one day you will look back and realise they were big           things

·      Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away!

·      Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass its about dancing in the rain

·      Life always offers you a second chance its called tomorrow

·      Your best teacher is your last mistake

·      The most imp thing in life aren’t things

·      You have 3 choices in life give up, give in, or give it all you got!

·      Every day may not be good, but theres something good in every day

·      People that are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who actually         do!

·      Life is very complicated. Don’t try to find the answers. Because when you find the answers,       life changes the questions!

·      Hashem cant give you the right thing if you keep holding onto the wrong thing

·      The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others on how you demand to be treated.

·      Your life is a result of the choices you make. If you don’t like your life, it is time to start              making better choices!

·      Remember not getting what you want can sometimes be the best thing for you!

·      I believe that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we         are responsible for who we become!

·      Don’t worry about the past or the future, this moment needs your attention, for this is where     life really exists

·      Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you!

·      The healthiest for of revenge is self-improvement!

·      If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done!

·      You can’t teach children to behave better by making them feel worse; when children feel            better they behave better!

·      Don’t judge somebody just because they sin differently then you

·      If you don’t want anyone to find out then don’t do it!

·      Life is the most difficult exam; many people fail because they try to copy others. Not                   realising that everyone has a different question paper!

·      Hugging is a good medicine. It transfers energy and gives the person hugged an emotional          lift. 

·      Time heals almost everything. Give it time!

·      If your lucky enough to be different, don’t change

·      All that we are is the result of what we had thought

·      It is easier to build up a child then to repair an adult. Choose your words wisely

·      Cutting people out of my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me

·      Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny

·      If it is important to you then you will find a way. If not , you’ll find an excuse

·      Be kind to unkind people they need it most

·      The purpose of life is to discover your gift, the meaning of life is to give your gift away

·      I don’t have time to hate the people who hate me, because I am busy loving people who love        me

·      We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are

·      Always be kinder then you feel

·      Sometimes when things are falling apart they are actually falling into place

·      Life is better when your laughing

·      Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace

·      Stop letting people who do so little for you, control much of your mind, feelings and                      emotions.

·      Nobody can go back and start a new beginning , but anyone can start today and make a new      ending!

·      When you know what you want and you want it badly enough you will find a way to get it

·      2 things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have      everything

·      When you want something that you have never had, then you have got to do something you        have never done

·      You never know, when a moment and a few sincere words can have an impact on a life

·      What would you do if you could be invisible for one day?

·      Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know

·      4 things we cannot recover   the stone, after the throw

·      We don’t have to change the world, just change ourselves

·      Give without expectations, you will never be disappointed

·      Be loyal. Never repeat a word someone tells you

·      What can I do for you…rather, what can you do for me

·      If you don’t like what your getting, change what your doing

·      You, and only you can decide how you feel, others cant boss u

·      Peace of mind comes from attitude, not change of  circumstance

·      See every problem as an opportunity

·      Be fascinated by other peoples uniqueness

·      You don’t always have to have an opinion

·      Blamers concentrate on their problems, successful people concentrate on the solutions

·      Others respect us to the degree we respect ourselves

·      Always make sure to make the other person feel good

·      You can give without loving, but you cannot love   without giving

·      Extraordinary people get extraordinary results