Thursday 3 December 2015

Mother


BEING A MOTHER 

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me 
to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. 
She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman 
loves you and would Love to spend 
some time with you.' 

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has 
been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three 
children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. 

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner 
and a movie.  'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is 
the type of woman who suspects 
that a late night call or a surprise invitation 
is a sign of bad news. 

'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend 
some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.' She thought 
about it for a moment, and then said, 
'I would like that very much.' 

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit 
nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed 
to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. 
She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to 
celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that 
was as radiant as an angel's. 
'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they 
were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait 
to hear 
about our meeting.' 

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, 
was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm 
as if she were the First Lady. 

After we sat down, I had to read the menu. 
Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I 
lifted my eyes and saw Mother 
sitting there staring at me. 
A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 

'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she 
said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I 
responded. During the dinner , we had an agreeable conversation 
nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's 
life. We talked so much that we 
missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go 
out with you again, but only if 
you let me invite you.'  I agreed. 

'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, 
much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered. 

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It 
happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for 
her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a 
restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An 
attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I 
could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you 
and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant 
for me. 

'I love you, son' 

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love 
YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in 
life is more important than your family. Give them the time they 
deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some 'other' 
time. 

Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after 
you've had a baby... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 
'normal' is history. 

Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the 
first... somebody doesn't have 
two or more children. 

Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and 
delivery....somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the 
first day of kindergarten... or on a plane headed for military 'boot 
camp.' 

Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets 
married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or 
daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings. 

Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves 
home... somebody never had grandchildren. 

Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to 
tell her... somebody isn't a mother. 

Pass this along to all the GREAT 'mothers' in your life and to 
everyone who ever had a mother. 

This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the 
people in your lives while you have them... no matter who that person 
is! 

Watch your thoughts, they become words. 
Watch your words, they become actions. 
Watch your actions, they become habits. 
Watch your habits, they become character. 
Watch your character, for it becomes... 
your destiny. 

'Be kinder than necessary to everyone you meet, because everyone 
is fighting some kind of battle'. 

-- 
Have a great day!


"The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be."

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