Friday, 31 July 2015
Thursday, 30 July 2015
Nice Story
I heard a beautiful story today about Rav Wosner. Rav Shmuel Wosner was the posek hadar, the one who rendered the most difficult and complex shailos, the questions that came his way. One day, a young couple that is engaged walked into his office. They had a very difficult shailah. The shailah was as follows:The chosson was not feeling well. Nebach, after taking a number of tests, he was diagnosed with the machlah, cancer. He decided that he was going to break the engagement. He went to the kallah together with his parents and informed her that the engagement was off because he didn't want her to have to live with such a difficult prognosis and such a difficult nisayon. But she said, "Absolutely not, this is my lot. And the fact that you got sick after we got engaged means that this is my tzarah as well". She refused to allow him to break the engagement. Well, when they were about to leave, they asked Rav Wosner what they should do. He said, "If this is the dedication that you have for one another, then you can and should stay engaged". B"H, he had a refuah shleima, but before they left they asked Rav Wosner if he could give them a bracha. She specifically said, "Being that I am staying engaged can you please give me a bracha that my chosson should get better". Rav Wosner was crying and he said, "I will give you a bracha on one condition, that you give me a bracha as well". Such a young lady, who is willing to embrace a nisayon, I want a bracha from you as well.B"H the couple had a beautiful life together and continues to have a wonderful family. Let's realize that sometimes when difficult things come our way, that is our nisayon. And we we have been chosen because we can handle it. Have a great day.
Tuesday, 28 July 2015
Relaxing
Have you ever had one of those awful tension headaches brought on by stress? It starts at the back of your neck and spreads like wildfire through your entire head. These headaches are brutal, they can last for hours or even days, and can have a massively negative effect on how the rest of your body feels. Suddenly it goes from tension in your head to tension in your shoulders, your back, your hips and so on through your body! Even if you’re among the lucky ones who have never had a tension headache, you may be familiar with some of the other effects of stress: weight gain (really!); fatigue; anxiety; panic attacks; stomach upsets; quick temper; foggy thinking; making snap judgments and decisions; and insomnia. Stress can wreak havoc on the body. But what if all this can be helped or even avoided with a few simple relaxation exercises?
Employing relaxation exercises that relieve stress knots in your neck, shoulders and back can provide gentle relaxation for your whole body. These exercises do not require much physical exertion, making them suitable for everyone.
Simple Relaxation Exercises for Quick Relief
1. Legs on a chair: Place a chair in a fairly open space. Lie next to the chair with your back flat on the floor and place your legs across the seat cushion of the chair. Make sure the bend in your knees is right up next to the side of the chair. Keep your arms extended out from my body, allowing a slight stretch and openness in those muscles. Breathe deeply and slowly while feeling your body letting go of tension. Focus on how your muscles physically relax now that the strain of your body is off of them.
2. Bottom against the wall: Move up to a wall and lie with a flat back on the floor. Extend your legs straight up the wall making sure that your bottom stays as close to the wall as you can possibly get it and that the small of your back is flat against the floor. If your back is arching those muscles are being strained and the exercise may not be as effective. Keep the arms outstretched away from the body. This particular position will help with your blood flow between all of your organs and limbs. It also relieves tension in the lower back, and will reduce any swelling in the legs that comes from being on them for long periods during the day.
3. Knees to the chest: Lie on your back and gently pull your knees into your chest. Rest your hands on your shins for stability. This will stretch out your lower back and relieve tension in the spine. If holding your knees to your chest is not relaxing you and is causing more strain on you, then simply lie with your knees bent as close to your chest as possible, laying your arms either at your side, over your chest or underneath your thighs where they meet your belly. Close your eyes and concentrate on breathing fully and slowly. Gentle, slow breaths will help keep your body from tensing up in this position.
4. Blanket log: Find an open place on the floor where you can stretch out fully. Roll a blanket or large towel into a log shape and place it on the floor so that when you lie down, the blanket is lined up with your spine. Sit on the lower edge of the blanket and carefully lie back – you’ll want your arms out to the side for stability. While you will have a few moments of feeling unbalanced, the exercise will do several things: fully engage your mind (you can’t be thinking about your worries when you’re trying to balance on the blanket log) and it will open your chest, which tends to compress when you’re in a stress situation. That’s a primal self-defense mechanism where you protect your chest (heart) from danger. Lying on the blanket log will stretch and open your chest muscles. If your days are spent sitting in a desk or hunched over a computer this is the ultimate relaxation exercise for you.
5. Meditate lying down. Of course avoid doing this if you’re sleepy, otherwise “meditation” will become another word for “great nap”! Choose a time of day when you are feeling relatively energetic and can escape for a few minutes – just 15 minutes of “me time” will do wonders. Choose the track that is most soothing to you, and if your headphone cords allow, lie on the floor or on a couch next to the stereo (or download your tracks to an iPod). While you’re meditating, relax your muscles, from head to toe. Visualize and feel each muscle relaxing bit by bit as your stress melts away. If you can’t find a place to lie down that’s near a stereo and you don’t want to listen on your iPod, you can do this too – focus on systematically relaxing each muscle. Don’t let your attention wander away from that wonderful feeling.
It can be hard to keep stress and tension from becoming chronic, but if you make regular use of these simple exercises you can keep your stress in check. It is up to you to manage your stress and tension levels so that they do not end up managing you – so be sure not to feel guilty about taking a break in the middle of a busy day! You need it!
You may be so used to hectic days and high levels of tension that you don’t even notice just how negatively they affect you. Stress does affect everyone, either on a subtle or obvious level so be sure to manage stress even if you have no outward symptoms and you feel that stress does not bother you. Make good use of these relaxation exercises to prevent stress from being chronic and to release the stress your body holds.
Monday, 27 July 2015
Sunday, 26 July 2015
Thankful
I
AM THANKFUL FOR…………
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I AM
THANKFUL:
FOR THE
WIFE
WHO SAYS
IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT,
BECAUSE
SHE IS HOME WITH ME,
AND NOT
OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE..
FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON
THE SOFA
BEING A
COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE
HE IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT
OUT AT THE BARS.
FOR THE
TEENAGER
WHO IS
COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE
IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME, NOT ON THE STREETS.
FOR THE
TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I AM EMPLOYED.
FOR THE
MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.
FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.
FOR MY
SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE
FOR A
LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS
THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND
GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME.
FOR ALL
THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR
ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE
IT MEANS WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH.
FOR THE
PARKING SPOT
I FIND AT
THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING
AND I HAVE
BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.
FOR MY HUGE HEATING
BILL
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM
WARM.
FOR THE
LADY BEHIND ME IN SHUL WHO SINGS OFF KEY
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I CAN HEAR.
FOR THE
PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.
FOR WEARINESS AND
ACHING MUSCLES AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
BEEN CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.
FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF IN
THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE
IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.
AND
FINALLY, FOR TOO MUCH E-MAIL
BECAUSE IT
MEANS I HAVE FRIENDS WHO ARE THINKING OF ME.
Live
well, Laugh often, & Love with all of your heart
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Amazing Quotes
INSPIRATIONS TO LIVE BY
· Life is like
photography we develop from the negatives
· Cuddling
literally kills depression, relieves anxiety and strengthens the immune system
· We have so
many needs in our life, but at the end of the day all we need is to be needed
· Why is my
bed so much more comfortable in the morning then at night?
· Dear sleep. I’m
sorry I hated you when I was younger, now I cant get enough of you!
· It doesn’t
matter who hurt you or broke you down it matters who picked you up and made you
smile again!
· Stop wishing
start doing
· How old
would you be if you don’t know how old you are?
Insist
on yourself never imitate
· Life begins
at the end of your comfort zone
· Shoot for
the moon, even if you miss you’ll fall amongst stars
The best and most beautiful things in life cannot be seen or even touched they must be felt with the heart!
· What would
you attempt to do if you knew you could never fail?
· Don’t spend
your life living with someone you can live with, spend it with the one you cant
live without!
· Enjoy the
little things in life because one day you will look back and
realise they were
big things
· Life is not
measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away!
· Life isn’t
about waiting for the storm to pass its about dancing in the rain
· Life always
offers you a second chance its called tomorrow
· Your best
teacher is your last mistake
Sometimes you fall down because there is something down there
you are supposed to find
· The most imp
thing in life aren’t things
· You have 3
choices in life give up, give in, or give it all you got!
· Every day
may not be good, but theres something good in every day
· People that
are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who actually
do!
· Life is very
complicated. Don’t try to find the answers. Because when
you find the answers,
life changes the questions!
· Hashem cant
give you the right thing if you keep holding onto the wrong thing
· The way you
treat yourself sets the standard for others on how you demand to be treated.
· Your life is
a result of the choices you make. If you don’t like your life, it is time to
start making better choices!
· Remember not
getting what you want can sometimes be the best thing for you!
· I believe
that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we
are responsible for who we become!
· Don’t worry
about the past or the future, this moment needs your attention, for this is
where life really exists
· Forget what
hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you!
· The
healthiest for of revenge is self-improvement!
· If you want
something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done!
· You can’t
teach children to behave better by making them feel worse; when children feel
better they behave better!
· Don’t judge
somebody just because they sin differently then you
· If you don’t
want anyone to find out then don’t do it!
The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it
· Life is the
most difficult exam; many people fail because they try to copy others. Not realising that everyone has a different question paper!
· Hugging is a
good medicine. It transfers energy and gives the person hugged an emotional
lift.
· Time heals
almost everything. Give it time!
· If your
lucky enough to be different, don’t change
· All that we
are is the result of what we had thought
· It is easier
to build up a child then to repair an adult. Choose your words wisely
Nothing ever does away until it has taught us what we need to
know
· Cutting
people out of my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me
· Hardships
often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny
· If it is important
to you then you will find a way. If not , you’ll find an excuse
· Be kind to
unkind people they need it most
· The purpose
of life is to discover your gift, the meaning of life is to give your gift away
· I don’t have
time to hate the people who hate me, because I am busy loving people who love
me
To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in
their lives today
· We cannot
become what we want to be by remaining what we are
· Always be kinder
then you feel
· Sometimes
when things are falling apart they are actually falling into place
· Life is
better when your laughing
· Do not let
the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace
· Stop letting
people who do so little for you, control much of your mind, feelings and
emotions.
· Nobody can
go back and start a new beginning , but anyone can start today and make a new
ending!
· When you
know what you want and you want it badly enough you will find a way to get it
· 2 things
define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you
have everything
· When you
want something that you have never had, then you have got to do something you
have never done
· You never
know, when a moment and a few sincere
words can have an impact on a life
· What would
you do if you could be invisible for one day?
· Nothing ever
goes away until it has taught us what we need to know
· 4 things we
cannot recover the stone, after the
throw
The word, after it is said, the occasion after its missed, the
time after it’s gone!
· We don’t
have to change the world, just change ourselves
· Give without
expectations, you will never be disappointed
· Be loyal.
Never repeat a word someone tells you
· Say yes when
ever possible. Seize the moment!
· What can I
do for you…rather, what
can you do for me
· If you don’t
like what your getting, change what your doing
· You, and
only you can decide how you feel, others cant boss u
· Peace of
mind comes from attitude, not change of
circumstance
· People are
more important than things
· Understand
before being understood
· See every
problem as an opportunity
· Be
fascinated by other peoples uniqueness
· You don’t
always have to have an opinion
· Blamers
concentrate on their problems, successful people concentrate on the solutions
· Others
respect us to the degree we respect ourselves
· What gets
praised gets repeated
· Always make
sure to make the other person feel good
· You can give
without loving, but you cannot love without
giving
· Extraordinary
people get extraordinary results
· Be future oriented,
in the future………
The world is like a mirror, smile and they will smile back
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