Positively Good

Beautiful story about a Positive Attitude. 

A famous writer was in his study. He picked up his pen and began writing:

**  Last year, my gall bladder was removed.  I was stuck in bed due to this surgery for a long time.

**  The same year I reached the age of 60 and had to give up my favorite job. I had spent 30 years of my life with this publishing company.

**  The same year I experienced the death of my father.

**  In the same year my son failed in his medical exam because he had a car accident. He had to stay in the hospital with a cast on his leg for several days.

**  And the destruction of the car was a second loss.

At the end he wrote:  Alas! It was such bad year!!

When the writer's wife entered the room, she found her husband looking sad and lost in his thoughts.  From behind his back she read what was written on his paper.  She left the room silently and came back shortly with another paper on which she had written her summary of the year and placed it beside her husband's writing.

When the writer saw her paper, he read:

**  Last year I finally got rid of my gall bladder which had given me many years of pain.

**  I turned 60 with sound health and retired from my job. Now I can utilize my time to write better and with more focus and peace.

**  The same year my father, at the age of 95 without depending on anyone and without any critical conditions, met his Creator.

**  The same year, God blessed my son with life.  My car was destroyed, but my son was alive and without permanent disability.

At the end she wrote:  This year was an immense blessing and it passed well!!

In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful but gratitude that makes us happy! There is always, always always so much to be grateful for!

Attitude is everything

Connected To Above

Thought of the day.........

 Rabbi Meir of Premishlan lived at the foot of a very steep hill. 

Each day, even in the ice of winter, he would hike over the hill to immerse and purify himself in a stream on the other side. 

The people who knew of this considered this quite wondrous; they could only walk around the hill as they were scared of falling on the ice.

 One day, a few young men  followed the Rebbi up the hilltop as he effortlessly ascended the hill once again. 

All of them fell down and were badly hurt. 

What was Rabbi Meir's secret? 

"When you are connected to above, he explained,

 You do not fall down."

(Bringing Heaven down to Earth page 129)

Whats Really Important In A Shidduch!

A man came to ask s Rabbi about boy in the yeshivah for his daughter who had reached marriageable age. He arrived at the yeshivah and entered the rosh yeshivah’s home during the break between learning sessions.

R’ Shmuel greeted him cordially and asked why he had come. He explained to the rosh yeshivah that he was inquiring about a particular boy. R’ Shmuel told him to ask him what was on his mind.
The man had many questions. First, he wanted to know how many hours a day the bachur learned. Was he punctual in arriving to seder and did he spend his time diligently? Did he come to davening on time and did he actively participate in the shiur? Did he ask relevant questions and understand the answers?
R’ Shmuel knew the boy well and was able to answer every question satisfactorily. After receiving a favorable report in regard to his questions, the man thanked R’ Shmuel for his time and got up to leave. At this point, R’ Shmuel, in his gentle and noble way, turned to the father and said, “You’ve asked me a number of questions. Do you mind if I ask you a few questions, too?” Of course, the man agreed.
R’ Shmuel looked at the man and said, “It seems to me that you are inquiring about the boy for your daughter and you seem happy with the report I gave you. You obviously think that all your daughter needs to know is whether he comes on time and if he is a lamdan.” The man nodded his head in agreement.
“But did it ever occur to you,” asked R’ Shmuel, “that your daughter might want to know if this boy is a mentsch? If he is a ba’al chessed?”
R’ Shmuel continued, “It would seem fitting that you should ask me: How often does he brush his teeth? How does he behave in the company of others? Does he arrive first in the dining room and take the biggest portion, or does he linger after Minchah for a few minutes to learn more and then eat whatever portion is left when he gets to the dining room?”
The man started to interject, but R’ Shmuel continued speaking. “I’m sure your daughter would be curious to know what he does when the pitcher on the table is empty. Does he wait for someone else to fill it up or does he run to fill it himself? Does he ever go into the kitchen to thank the staff for preparing the food? Does he eat the food even if he doesn’t care for it, or does he just go to the nearby kiosk to buy something he likes?
“You came to the conclusion that he is a masmid; did you ask what he does when he finishes learning late at night and his roommates are sleeping? Does he take off his shoes and tiptoe in so as not to wake them, or does he walk in noisily? Does he make his bed and keep his things neat? Does he think about others and want to do chessed for them, or does he just think about himself?” R’ Shmuel concluded, “I think that you need to check these things out. If he arrives home in the afternoon and does not like the food your daughter worked hard to prepare, will his face reflect obvious dissatisfaction? Will your daughter then be happy that her father checked this boy out with the rosh yeshivah who told him that he knows every Ketzosand Rabi Akiva Eiger? Will she say, ‘It’s true that he has no manners and no social skills, but I respect him anyway because he knows the sugya of the bees and the mustard in Bava Basra’?”
The man hung his head in shame, realizing his oversight. He understood R’ Shmuel’s message and now knew the proper approach to finding a shidduch for a bas Yisrael. It is important for a bachur to be diligent, but one must also remember that nothing in this world, and certainly no marriage, can exist without chessed.

Chazal tell us that Noach used a “secret weapon” with which he was able to rebuild the world after the destruction of the Flood: Olam chessed yibaneh—“the world will be built upon kindness” (Tehillim 89:3).
Rav Mordechai Gifter zt”l explains that Noach was locked inside a floating ark for 120 days with nothing to do butchessed for his family and for the animals. This was all for the sole purpose of entrenching the ideal of chessed into his very being so that when it would be time to come out and start the world over again, he would do so with the attribute of kindness. This was, and continues to be, the only way the world can exist.

I Am A Jew!

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Children

The Button

    There is a lady who lives in Eretz Yisroel who was wearing her blouse. The blouse that she was wearing could be worn in one of two ways, either with the top closed or with it opened a little bit. Either way, it wasn't terribly not tznius, but the standard of the school and her family was to have the top button closed. She was struggling with it. She wasn't struggling with yiddishkeit in any way, but just in this areas; she wanted to wear the button open. She spoke it over with her mother, and her mother left it up to her. She chose to close the button. Later that day, her mother sees her and sees that she is really exhausted from the spiritual struggle. With tears in her eyes, her mother tells her, you know what? Who knows if your closing of your button stopped another pigua from happening in Eretz Yisroel. Who knows!

   B"H there was less terror today than yesterday. Who knows what one closing of a button can do. What is your 'button'? What is that one small thing that for whatever reason it is, is a struggle for you. Because who knows if your 'button' can prevent one more terrorist attack from ruining the lives of our brothers and sisters.

   Hopefully IY"H, we can garner up the strength and do whatever we need to do to close our one 'button'. Have a great day and rest of your week.   

Happiness

Our Happiness is with Other’s

Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar.

Suddenly the speaker stopped and started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were left in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.

Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the person whose name was written on it.

Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began— Exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness, you will get your own happiness.