Something To Think About! Over 100 Quotes

Something To Think About!

By: Toby Lieder

•     You can multiply happiness by dividing it

•     The highest reward for a person's toil  is  not     what  they get for it, but what they become by it.

•     The only people, with whom you should try and get even with, are those who have helped you!

•     The best way to forget your own problems to help others solve theirs!

•      If we are patient in one moment of anger, we will escape a hundred days of sorrow!

•     You can give without loving but you cannot love without giving!

•     God, when we are wrong, make us willing to change, and when we are right, make us easy to             live with'.

•     Temper gets you into trouble, pride keeps you there!

•     It doesn't matter what you do for a living. If u love it. You are a success!

•    The time to relax is when you don't have time for it!

    If it weren't for the last minute, very little would get done!

•    Thinking          is  the  hardest          work   there  is, which are probably                  very few people engage in it!

•     How people   play  the game, shows something of their characters, how they lose, shows all of it.

•     If you want good children, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money.

•     The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place. But, even more so         to leave the unsaid the wrong thing, at the tempting moment!

•     If the whole world obeyed the 10   commandments there might not be 10:00 news!

•     A good marriage is a union of 2 forgivers!!

•     Loving can cost a lot, but not loving always cost more!

•     Love lights more fires, than hate extinguishes.

•     Blessed are those, who give without remembering, and take without forgetting!

•     Some people make the future and others wait for the future to make them!

•     Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish one's growth, without destroying one's roots!

•     The most difficult thing for people to say in 25 words or less is "good bye."

•     The most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen nor touched but they are felt in the heart.

•     The advice your child rejected, is now been given to your grandchild.

•      NEVER SAY NEVER!

•      Nothing succeeds like success!

•    Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch words, they become actions.

     Watch your actions,  they become  habits.  Watch  your  habits,  they become character.

     Watch your character, It  becomes your destiny.

•    To make a good salad is to be brilliant diplomat. One must know exactly how much oil, one must       put with vinegar.

•    The one and only place success come before work is in the dictionary.

•    What can I do for you, rather then, what can you do for me

•    Hashgocha Protis  meant to be

•    Be Loyal. Time of sorrow time of joy

•    Understand before being understood

•    2 compliments please

•    Picasso imperfect painting

•    Give people what they need they’ll give u what you want

•    Can give w/o loving but cannot love w/o giving

•    Kid asked for 1 hour of dads time present

•    Say excellent you’ll start to feel excellent

•    What gets praised gets repeated

•    Don’t talk slander people wont trust you

•    You never know when your making history

•    Keep commitments follow your promises

•    Give 101% get more then expected

•    Be a good finder, glass breaks clean floor

•    Loving cost a lot, not loving even more

•    What is the best present you ever got?

•    What 3 things give you the biggest wow

•    If you had a free week what would you do

•    An ideal world what would it look like?

•    Gps know where coming from going to

•    Airplane is off compass most of the time

•    Change isn’t easy 14 days new habit

•    Traffic lights down chaos need rules

•    The ew and the ah business before pleasure

•    The law of attraction farmer boy

•    Little birdie with dirt under his nose

•    Attitude train ride wild kids

•    Sandwich criticisms praise before and after

•    Future oriented

•    Love n hate exercise

•    Stick on memos of acknowledgement

•    On a scale of 1-10

•    People are more important then things

•    The dot in the email small dot

•    Compliments game

•    Birthday date with each child individually

•    Follow your heart

•    Hole in sidewalk

•    Listen to the other w/o interruption

•    Private time

•    Seize the moments to help someone

     Life is like photography we develop from the negatives

·      Cuddling literally kills depression, relieves anxiety and strengthens the immune system

·      We have so many needs in our life, but at the end of the day all we need is to be needed

·      Why is my bed so much more comfortable in the morning then at night?

·      Dear sleep. I’m sorry I hated you when I was younger, now I cant get enough of you!

·      It doesn’t matter who hurt you or broke you down it matters who picked you up and made         you smile again!

·      Stop wishing start doing

·      How old would you be if you don’t know how old you are?

     Insist on yourself never imitate

·      Life begins at the end of your comfort zone

·      Shoot for the moon, even if you miss you’ll fall amongst stars

·      What would you attempt to do if you knew you could never fail?

·      Don’t spend your life living with someone you can live with, spend it with the one you cant          live without!

·      Enjoy the little things in life because one day you will look back and realise they were big           things

·      Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away!

·      Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass its about dancing in the rain

·      Life always offers you a second chance its called tomorrow

·      Your best teacher is your last mistake

·      The most imp thing in life aren’t things

·      You have 3 choices in life give up, give in, or give it all you got!

·      Every day may not be good, but theres something good in every day

·      People that are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who actually         do!

·      Life is very complicated. Don’t try to find the answers. Because when you find the answers,       life changes the questions!

·      Hashem cant give you the right thing if you keep holding onto the wrong thing

·      The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others on how you demand to be treated.

·      Your life is a result of the choices you make. If you don’t like your life, it is time to start              making better choices!

·      Remember not getting what you want can sometimes be the best thing for you!

·      I believe that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we         are responsible for who we become!

·      Don’t worry about the past or the future, this moment needs your attention, for this is where     life really exists

·      Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you!

·      The healthiest for of revenge is self-improvement!

·      If you want something you’ve never had, then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done!

·      You can’t teach children to behave better by making them feel worse; when children feel            better they behave better!

·      Don’t judge somebody just because they sin differently then you

·      If you don’t want anyone to find out then don’t do it!

·      Life is the most difficult exam; many people fail because they try to copy others. Not                   realising that everyone has a different question paper!

·      Hugging is a good medicine. It transfers energy and gives the person hugged an emotional          lift. 

·      Time heals almost everything. Give it time!

·      If your lucky enough to be different, don’t change

·      All that we are is the result of what we had thought

·      It is easier to build up a child then to repair an adult. Choose your words wisely

·      Cutting people out of my life does not mean I hate them, it simply means I respect me

·      Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny

·      If it is important to you then you will find a way. If not , you’ll find an excuse

·      Be kind to unkind people they need it most

·      The purpose of life is to discover your gift, the meaning of life is to give your gift away

·      I don’t have time to hate the people who hate me, because I am busy loving people who love        me

·      We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are

·      Always be kinder then you feel

·      Sometimes when things are falling apart they are actually falling into place

·      Life is better when your laughing

·      Do not let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace

·      Stop letting people who do so little for you, control much of your mind, feelings and                      emotions.

·      Nobody can go back and start a new beginning , but anyone can start today and make a new      ending!

·      When you know what you want and you want it badly enough you will find a way to get it

·      2 things define you. Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have      everything

·      When you want something that you have never had, then you have got to do something you        have never done

·      You never know, when a moment and a few sincere words can have an impact on a life

·      What would you do if you could be invisible for one day?

·      Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know

·      4 things we cannot recover   the stone, after the throw

·      We don’t have to change the world, just change ourselves

·      Give without expectations, you will never be disappointed

·      Be loyal. Never repeat a word someone tells you

·      What can I do for you…rather, what can you do for me

·      If you don’t like what your getting, change what your doing

·      You, and only you can decide how you feel, others cant boss u

·      Peace of mind comes from attitude, not change of  circumstance

·      See every problem as an opportunity

·      Be fascinated by other peoples uniqueness

·      You don’t always have to have an opinion

·      Blamers concentrate on their problems, successful people concentrate on the solutions

·      Others respect us to the degree we respect ourselves

·      Always make sure to make the other person feel good

·      You can give without loving, but you cannot love   without giving

·      Extraordinary people get extraordinary results

Warm Story

The Mishnaic sage, Rabbi Yehoshua ben Alam, was once told in a dream, "Rejoice, because you and Nanas the butcher will sit together in Gan Eden in Heaven." 

Rabbi Yehoshua woke up alarmed: "Woe is me! My entire life I have always maintained a state of awe of Heaven, I have toiled only in Torah, never walked four cubits (2 meters) without tzitzis or tefillin, and have eighty worthy students. Yet all of my accomplishments are only equal to those of this butcher?"

He promptly sent a message to his students that he would not enter the Study Hall until he ascertained who this butcher was. He trudged from village to village asking about Nanas the butcher until he finally arrived in his town. The townsmen were surprised that the tzadik was interested in this ordinary individual. Nevertheless, they set out to bring him, but he refused to come, unable to believe that the great sage was really asking to meet him. Rabbi Yehoshua had no choice but to go visit the butcher at his shop.

When he arrived at the shop, the butcher fell on his face and exclaimed, "Why is today so special that the Crown of Israel has come to visit his servant?"

Rabbi Yehoshua told him that he wanted to hear about his conduct.

The man replied, "My master! I work as a butcher. Also, I have two elderly parents who cannot take care of themselves, so every day I dress them, feed them and bathe them myself." 

Hearing this, Rebbi Yehoshua kissed his forehead and said, "My son! Fortunate are you and fortunate is your lot! And how fortunate is my lot that I have been found worthy of being your partner in Heaven!"

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Our Children Are Not Ours Forever!

Our Children Are Not Ours                                                    by,  Toby Lieder   3/8/20015

Slowly I gaze around my home that was once filled with laughter, music, and a big mess, and I wonder where did it all disappear?  They were here just yesterday, and today they all almost gone. Gone to their own homes in their own paradise. Gone to their own kiddies jumping on their beds now, and finding half filled sour curdled milk baby bottles under their beds!

No more morning rush to beat the clock to catch the school bus while sending 8 kids out the house at once! No more rushing home before 4:00 to be home for the crew that arrive at my doorstep with starving tummy's and wondrous tales to share! You mean I can keep shopping till I drop?

I can even lay down at any given time I desire, with no one looking for me and harassing me to get up and make them toast and peanut butter NOW!

I can even eat a whole sandwich without having to share any part of it with anyone! Because no one is home to ask!

I can even polish down a bag of chips without being disturbed! Never mind reading a complete newspaper without one interruption!

Sundays are now a walk on the beach instead of busy kiddy picnics in the park that took 2 hours to get ready for.

But...You know, I never knew that, what I once wished for can really come true.

Oh! How I once wished for the quiet peace of sleeping uninterrupted.

How I thought that was never to be! To be able to go to the bathroom alone! To be able to just sleep in till the sun went down again!

But, I must confess, my friends, the time has come and I can sleep like there’s no tomorrow, with no one tugging on my blankets to take them to the toilet, or sing them back to sleep from a nightmare.

Oh yes! I can sleep now like there’s no tomorrow.

I can eat my chocolate and leave it on the table and it will still be there 3 hours later. I know it sounds like a fantasy, but the time does actually come when you can clean the floor and it actually stays clean for 2 days straight!

I always thought that raising kids would last forever.

I always thought that putting kids to bed at night would never end.

I always thought I would never ever get a good night sleep ever again!

But, I must confess, the time has come and I don't like it at all. Its not what it seemed to be. It is no picnic being alone at home. It is no fun just having pictures on the walls to stare at when you feel the pangs of hunger for having your good ol’ family back to the way it was.

I never thought it would come so fast. I never thought it would be so lonely!

It was just yesterday when I lay in bed with one child on one side of me, another on the other side, one across my feet, and another the youngest on top of my entire body, all of us under one big warm blanket, listening to my bedtime stories while falling asleep, all together.

It feels like the tape was put on fast forward, to a place where I am right now! I am not meant to be finished my job! It was meant to go on forever and ever! I really never knew it would actually halt like a short stop on a busy road. Nobody warned me. I am still looking in the rooms at night to see if everyone’s asleep. But nobody’s there, Hey! Where did my family go?

It felt like just yesterday when I came to watch the kids concerts and plays in school. I took all the photos and videos. Now its time to dust them off the shelves, to  take down the albums and tapes and go down memory lane, and sort out yesterday’s memories. Mabe.

What I am realising is, that if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t wish for the end so fast. I would consume each and every day as if it were the only day I have.

My friends, the time goes faster and faster and before you know it, we are on rocking chairs knitting scarves for our great grandchildren’s children!

If I had it all over again, I would never want it to finish so quickly.

I know it is not the end, and it is just the beginning.

I know, I am blessed with over 22 grandchildren, and married 7 out of 14 children already B”H.

But am I ready to enter Bubbyland?

I am still 17,  Gevald! How can a 17 year old have so many grandchildren!

Where did the time fly?

Then it hit me. This is what I got to realise.

The Almighty Hashem has blessed us with being the carers for His children that he blessed us with. He entrusted me, and my dear husband, with 14 souls, and said, “Here are my gifts to you to take care of for a while, till they grow old enough to take care of themselves (when exactly?)

They are just temporary visitors in your home that I trust you to educate and discipline, according to the ways of the Torah.

You will hopefully do such a good job that by the time they are 18+ they will be fully grown responsible independent human beings that will follow the right way. Hashem gifted us with these souls to make a difference to them to carry on the torch of yiddishkeit, and  love, for a better future.

The only message that I totally missed in all the hassle of bringing kids into this world was that they really don’t belong to me. They are Hashem’s belonging.

The little P.S. at the end of our agreement, between Hashem, and us, I totally overlooked was that we don’t ‘own’ our kids. They are not ours to keep forever. There is a use by date on them. There is a time when they need to go their independent ways and take all the knowledge and experience they have learned in our domain, and bring it into the next generation.

I always thought I owned them, since I gave birth to them, dressed them, fed them, took them to doctors and hospitals, appointments, and never ending changing diapers, staying up at night, crying babies, endless shopping for kids, birthday parties, shabbosim, friends over, send them to camps, to seminary, getting them married, being there for their first births, helping with their kids…. and the list goes on.

I came to realise, that each child is a world of their own, and are entitled to a universe of their own. Each child is not a replica of myself. G-d forbid they should all be replicas of me! Each one is meant to be the best replica of themselves!

“If you and I think alike there is one of us too many,” as the saying goes.

Hashem created each of our children in their own unique design; footprint, and we as parents have an obligation, to raise each child independent of each other, each in its own style according to their needs. And their needs only, and not ours.

We have no right to feel ownership over our kids, because after all they are Hashems children, and he ‘loaned’ them to us for a short while, entrusting us with his diamonds, to mold and impact them to be good human beings.

Then comes a time for us to ‘let go’ and say, we did our job and now we are here to assist you whenever you need us we are here for you 24/7, (forever), but to assist you but not to impose on you.

What I’m getting at is, There is a time to let go, and watch our kids blossom on their own. That is what we planted seeds for all our life. To sit back one day and watch the flowers blossom in the garden.

Now I must accept the time has come to sit back and relax, smell the roses, and hear the birds chirping.

Ill water my plants from time to time, only when being asked to.

To all my younger friends still on the rollercoaster of raising little kids, I convey to you a most important message, that is, Stop, Breath, Relax, enjoy all the moments of family, the craziness, the mess, the chaos, etc. Laugh, Have tons of fun with your family, because soon, it’ll be rocking chair time, and I mean it!!

Gotta go back to my knitting…….

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