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 Just do it!! Article on YOU

Close your eyes, and imagine this for a moment.

You are 86 years old on your porch on a rocking chair on a warm sunny morning, looking back on your life.

Now let me tell you, studies show that the biggest regret from elderly people on their deathbed is not what they did, but it's what they 'didn't' do.
The risks they 'never' took. The time they never spent enough, with loved ones, etc.

How sad would it be to get to the end of your life and realized you never truely lived.

This is 'your' life, nobody else's.

No matter how much your society, your parents, your friends want you to live, or the way they want you to live.. YOU RUN THE SHOW. You and only you are in charge!

When you shut your eyes and go to sleep at night, the entire world ceases to exist, and when you wake up it's born again. Just for you. As it says; Bshvil  Lee Nivra Haolam! The day is 'yours'! The world is at your feet. Hashem created you and only one version of You.

This is your life, you're in control, you  do what feels right in 'your' heart.

Now go back to the rocking chair and think what would your future say about the ideas you never created, the books you never wrote, the words you never spoke, the friends you never made, the people you were hesitant about introducing yiddishkiet to them, the time you could've spent with your loved ones instead of your cell phone!

But I get it, you want it easy.

But if greatness was easy you would see a lot of successful people and lot of great people.
Astronauts, professional athletes or superheroes, but you dont.
You'll see a lot of people with big mouths  making excuses on facebook, trying to get likes but they dont even like themselves.
See, the difference between winners and losers is persistence. Winners don't talk too much, they are action oriented!
My teacher told me about the bamboo tree.
After planting the seed it takes five years for it to break through the ground.
That's five whole years of attention, care and water everyday.
If you miss a day it dies right there, but once it breaks through the ground, after those five years, within five weeks it grows 90ft. tall
So your journey isn't gonna be easy, it's gonna take time.
And when you have a dream, people are gonna laugh because they won't see what 'you' see.
They'll say what is that idiot doing watering  the ground?
They aren't capable of seeing the plant that's planted inside of you, they have sight but no vision, only 'you'

have the vision.
So let them laugh, they will say be real, be realistic, but realism is often an excuse for pessimisms and you can't let other people's opinion define your reality.
So let them laugh.
But I guarantee, you won't find one successfull person in history that people didn't laugh at.

Stop worrying about your reputation, because your reputation let's people think about you, your characters who you are.
Make the commitment whole heartedly. Stop thinking, and JUST DO IT.
Do it for you, the real 'you', because ultimately YOU deserve it!
You don't get to do-over your life.

So Live your DREAMS.

You don't have to  be great to get started but you have to get started to be great.


Toby Lieder

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Parenting; Something To Think About!

What parenting habits are the most significant to kids?

1. The times you made them feel safe (or the times you made them feel unsafe)

There’s a vulnerability and a need for protection in the heart of every child. Your kids will remember those moments you chased the monsters from under their bed or held them after a nightmare, but they’ll also remember the times when your temper became the monster they feared. Our kids are probably going to see us angry sometimes, because that’s part of life, but make it your mission to make your children feel safe and secure at all times when they’re with you.

2. The times you gave them your undivided attention

Kids measure love primarily by our attentiveness to them. The times you stop what you’re doing to have a tea party or go outside to throw a ball or jump on a trampoline with be memories etched into their minds and hearts forever. Take the time to do the little things with your kids, because in the end, they’ll be the moments that matter most.

3. The way you interacted with your spouse

Our kids are forming their views of love in large part by watching how we treat our husband or wife. Strive to have the kind of marriage that makes them excited to get married someday. Give them the security that comes from seeing their Mom and Dad in a committed, loving relationship with each other.

4. Your words of affirmation andyour words of criticism

A child’s heart is like wet cement and the impression made early in life will harden over time. They’ll base their sense of identity, capability and even self-worth largely upon the words you speak to them in those formative years. Part of our job as parents is to correct and discipline, but even in correction, let your words be full of love, encouragement and positive reinforcement.

5. Your family traditions

Kids love spontaneity, but they also have deep need for predictability. They’ll remember with great fondness the “traditions” you establish whether it’s a weekly family movie (or game) night, a place you regularly travel for family getaways, the way you celebrate birthdays and special events or any other special tradition. Be intentional about creating some traditions that they’ll want to pass onto their own children someday.

92 Year Old Reveals Her Secret!

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coifed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. “Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room …. just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it. It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away, just for this time in my life.” She went on to explain, “Old age is like a bank account, you withdraw from what you’ve put in. So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories Thank you for your part in filling my Memory bank. I am still depositing.” And with a smile, she said: “Remember the five simple rules to be happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred. 2. Free your mind from worries. 3. Live simply. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less.    

What A Powerful Story!

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who had been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my 3 children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

“What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

“I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.”

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation — nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” Asked my wife when I got home.

“Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place where mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless I paid for two plates — one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.”

“I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I love you,” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

Change

“When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family. Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.”

--R Levi Yitzchok of Barditchev

Why I Love My Mommy (Bonei Olam)

What A Miracle!!!

POURING OUT HIS HEART TO HASHEM 

A couple that had been married for fifteen years without being blessed by children, decided to divorce, despite their harmonious marriage. Shortly after the get was completed, the woman discovered that she was expecting a child. The joyous news had a very sad side, as the husband was a Kohein and was forbidden to remarry his wife. Their pain and heartbreak knew no bounds. The husband described his painful situation to Rav Chaim Kanievesky, who told him that he couldn't see

any way that he could remarry, but suggested that the man consult with his father in-law, Ha'gaon Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv. The man went to R' Elyashiv and repeated his tale. R' Elyashiv told him with great pain

that it's definitely forbidden for a Kohein to remarry his former wife. "The only thing I can tell you is that you should go to the Kosel HaMaaravi, and daven to Hashem that he should save you." The Kohein regarded R' Elyashiv's words as a direct instruction, and immediately

went straight to the Kosel. He approached the stones and poured out his heart without restraint. After davening for a lengthy period of time, the Kohein felt a hand on his back. He turned around and saw an avreich talmid chacham, who inquired what had happened to him. The Kohein repeated his story, and the stranger asked him, "Do you have a father?"

The Kohein didn't understand the point of the question, but he answered that of course he had a father. His father was very old and was living in a nursing home in America, and could barely communicate with those

around him. "In my opinion, you should fly to America, and tell your father what has happened to you," said the man and he turned to leave. It didn’t seem to matter that the father's condition made it almost impossible to communicate with him at all, and the avreich still recommended the trip. The Kohein reasoned that if Rav Elyashiv told him to go to the Kosel to daven, and if this stranger approached him while he was davening and advised him to fly to America, maybe it was worthwhile for him to go to America, and decided to heed this man's

words. He arranged a flight, and a day and half later he was at his father's side, in the nursing home. The medical staff had informed the son when he first arrived that his father had not uttered a word for many months, and that he shouldn't expect his father to speak to him. The

Kohein began telling his father the story, and his father didn't respond, but seemed to be listening to what his son was saying. As the son continued his story, he began crying uncontrollably. Then, unbelievably, his father began speaking and said clearly, "You are not my biological son, but you were adopted after the Holocaust. You do not have the status of a Kohein, and there is no reason that you couldn't remarry your former wife!"(Barchi Nafshi)